By Angela Davis
Dating is a daunting prospect, especially for those who�ve been off the circuit for a while. Here�s a little dating advice to help you back on the dating wagon.
1.Remember this is a date for your partner also. They are also going to be nervous and worried whether they are doing/saying the �right thing�. Be yourself, and encourage your date to do the same. Dates are all about finding out about the other person, if you are both on your �best� behavior, the real you wont be able to shine through. So relax and be yourself.
2.Find out in advance where you�ll be going. Try and take a trip past there and see what people are wearing so that you know you�ll be dressed right. One of the worst fears on getting prepared for a date is in knowing what to wear. Whilst your partner might not be too worried about whether you�re dressed right, you wont relax if you feel you are over or under dressed for the evening. Doing a little investigation work beforehand takes the worry and guesswork out of choosing your clothes.
3.On a similar note to clothes, don�t wear new shoes! You may think that all you�ll be doing is walking from a car to a restaurant and back again, and so your brand new 3 inch stiletto heels with the tiny straps across the front will be perfect for a fancy restaurant � but what if your date wants to dance? Or invites you for a moonlit stroll? The shoes might not turn out to be such a great idea! So think ahead, and give the new shoes a miss on this occasion!
4.Plan ahead on topics you can talk about. There are few things worse than a dinner date where no-one has anything to say and so you sit in an awkward silence, each waiting for the other to find something you can discuss. Make a list and commit it to memory. If the conversation starts to falter a little, choose one of the topics from your list and restart the dialogue. The more you talk to your date, the more you find out � if you remember to stop talking once in a while and listen of course!
5.If you are dating with a hope of finding a permanent partner, then remember to use the date as a fact finding mission! Find out what your date likes, what he dislikes, what his views are on social issues etc. Don�t get into any big religious or political debate! This isn�t the time or the place. But just gently lead the conversation around to things that are non-negotiable issues for you and lightly brush over the surface to see what views he may hold. Once you have a feel for what he believes in, you can explore this further at another occasion � unless what you uncover on the surface is enough for you to call it a day with this particular date and continue your search!
6.The end of a date is always a bit tricky. What to do? Is it ok to sleepover? Do you have to kiss your date? In this day and age, this should no longer be a question of convention. This is completely your decision. You should do what feels right for you. If you want him to stay overnight, then invite him! If you don�t want him to kiss you, make the first move and make it clear that you don�t want personal space invaded. Don�t make your mind up before you even leave the house. Enjoy the evening and see where you�d like it to end. If you�re having dinner, take a trip to the ladies room between the desert course and the coffee, have a few moments to yourself and decide how you want the rest of the evening to go if it�s left in your hands. Your date may of course may not want to do anything more than put you in a cab, but if that�s not the case, then you decide what you would like to happen and take it from there.
7.The last piece of advice I have for you, is to have fun! Dating shouldn�t feel like a chore. Something you have to get through so you can move onto the good stuff! Dating should be a time of exploration, and of meeting new people. A time of learning about them, and perhaps discovering something of yourself along the way. Enjoy it!
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