Boomers, Don't Rule Out Internet Dating

By Janet Piima

Ever considered looking for love online? There�s no need to be timid if you�ve thought about it. You might be surprised to learn that at least one popular dating Web site reports the fastest growing segment of people checking out the site is your peers, that is, those 45-59. In the last several years, their numbers have increased 350 percent. One key reason people are turning to online dating is because of the anonymity. It�s comforting to be able to see who else is out there looking for a mate, without revealing too much about yourself. It�s a safe environment to get to know someone.

Another reason, you are not limited geographically unless you want to be. Finally, we all know how easy it is to grow attached to the wrong person for the wrong reasons. You may not find your perfect match online but at least you can narrow the field by meeting people with similar interests before you get attached.

If you�re a fifty-something or close to it and find yourself back in the dating game, don�t believe the stereotypes about awkwardness. It may have been awhile since you�ve dated, but if you�re like most Baby Boomers you�ve gained a certain wisdom that allows you to know what you want and don�t want and lets you enjoy a relationship for what it is, rather than trying to make it something else. In spite of conventional thinking, many men and women are more attractive in their mid-forties to sixties than at any previous point in their lives. That�s because instead of worrying about what others think, they�ve grown comfortable in their skin.

If you�re considering looking online but feeling a little rusty, many dating Web sites offers dating advice for people in your age group.

While you're looking, check out these Web sites which have good track records:

eHarmony eHarmony seeks to match an individual based on compatible core values. Using an in-depth questionnaire, they seek to make permanent matches. The goal of eHarmony is to match people in search of a life-long commitment, not just a date. Singles who have used eHarmony comment that while filling out the detailed questionnaire, they learn more about themselves and their goals, and where they are headed in life. eHarmony employs a five-step process intended to help you get past the awkward stages. On the downside, eHarmony does not allow gays and lesbians to use its site (reflecting the founder�s evangelical Christian beliefs).

eHarmony founder Neil Clark Warren recommends that you visit the Web site and take the tour even before you fill out the questionnaire. You can receive information about potential matches without becoming a member, though your identity remains confidential till you reveal it.

eHarmony

eHarmony offers many books about relationships that you may find helpful. Take a look:

Match.com

For more information on this and other Boomer issues, visit www.secondprime.com.

Janet Piima is a freelance writer for SecondPrime.com, the new Internet destination where people over 50 connect, create and contribute.

Re-Entering the Dating World After Divorce

By Carolyn McFann

After a long marriage ends in divorce, dating again may be initially uncomfortable. After years of being out of the dating scene, what is a newly single person to do? Take heart, because like anything else, with a little practice it will not seem so intimidating to you anymore. For someone set in their ways through the years, the prospect of dating may be as appealing as having a root canal. Unknowns are always uncomfortable or scary, but don�t let it stop you from trying. Your confidence will grow with practice, so be patient with yourself.

The first thing to do is to prepare yourself mentally for expanding your social life and taking new risks on letting new people into your life. If you have single friends, turn to them for a pep-talk or dating pointers. They�ve been out there meeting people, so they may have ideas on where to go to meet people locally, or on the internet. Get their opinions on current dating protocol and don�t be embarrassed. To make something less intimidating, it�s best to handle it head-on. With friends around, you aren�t going at it alone and have a support system. Remember back in our twenties, when we used to chat about people we liked with our friends? We may be a little older - but inside we are still living and breathing men and women, who have needs and desires.

To give yourself a boost, take on a positive attitude, and catch yourself whenever you start feeling negative. Be kind and refrain from being overly self-critical. Many of us have pounds to lose, scars, or other issues that may make us shaky about ourselves, but remember that nobody is perfect. We all have something that we don�t like about ourselves. Let it go and make the best of who you are right now, not what you want to be later. There are solutions to other problems that can be dealt with whenever you�re ready. Right now, if dating is a priority to you, then focus on that right now. Looking at the big picture can be overwhelming, so take on situations one at a time to make them more manageable.

Go out and buy yourself a new outfit that you like and feel good in. Don�t go shopping with the mindset of what others want to see you in, but what appeals to you and makes you feel most comfortable when going to a restaurant or movie. Be yourself, in what you consider appropriate business-casual attire. Most women remember when we were much younger; squishing our bodies into form-fitting outfits and high heels, even if they didn�t feel good to wear, just to look as attractive as possible. This time around, go for what is stylish, but is also age-appropriate. In other words, no outfits meant for someone who is twenty. An ex-co-worker of mine noticed a woman who was in her sixties, but had a flashy wig, too much makeup and a micro-mini skirt worn by many teenagers, at that time. We had to stop him from hysterically laughing. He said, �She thinks she�s attractive, but that isn�t, she looks like a clown.� We felt bad for her, because she was trying way too hard to impress others. It doesn�t mean buying granny clothes, rather an outfit that isn�t too revealing or outrageous. Women, please make sure you can walk in heels, if you plan on wearing them. You don�t want your date to see you trip or take a tumble because you aren�t used to wearing heels over two inches high.

Meet your date in a public place, and get to know him gradually before bringing the person home to meet the family. After going through a divorce, you know what you don�t want in a mate. Now is the time to find someone more in tuned to your likes and needs. Build a friendship and allow it to grow deeper. Don�t worry about who else they are seeing. If it�s meant to be, the others will fall away. Ignore the competition. If the person is into dating really young people, then he or she isn�t the right person for you anyway. There are many solid, decent mates out there who prefer mature folks with more experience in life. Don�t compare yourself to others. As long as the person you enjoy is single and has qualities you admire, you�re off to a great start.

By taking time to get to know potential mates, and allowing yourself to become comfortable with someone who stands out among them, you will lose those initial dating jitters. Give yourself a silent pep-talk, and enjoy yourself. You're as old as you feel, and are more able to understand the world than you were when in your twenties or thirties. Use this knowledge to screen dates and be proud of yourself for making the effort. You can do it, one day at a time.

Carolyn McFann is a scientific and nature illustrator, who owns Two Purring Cats Design Studio, which can be seen at: http://www.cafepress.com/twopurringcats. Educated at the Rochester Institute of Technology in New York, Carolyn is a seasoned, well-traveled artist, writer and photographer. Besides handling numerous assignments in the US, she has lived and worked in Cancun, Mexico. Clients include nature parks, museums, scientists, corporations and private owners. She has been the subject of tv interviews, articles for newspapers and other popular media venues.

The First 90 Days - Hire, Fire or Put Your Lover on Probation

By Cassandra George Sturges

Until your employer has tangible proof that you are capable of doing the job that you were hired to do, you will be placed on probation for 90 days. Most companies don�t care if you break your leg or why you are late within your first ninety days on a new job. They are more concerned about detecting early warning signs of unproductive personal characteristics that may cost them money in the future. In ninety days your true character will come out in small and big ways. Employers will observe whether or not your reports are completed in a timely manner; how well you get along with coworkers; and whether or not you are a self-starter.

They are not being sneaky or underhanded in their assessment of your skills and commitment to their organization. A couple of interviews, calling a few select references and an impressive resume are not enough background resources to determine the true long-term character of a person. So before they enroll you into their 401K retirement plan and pay for your advanced college degree, most companies will observe your work ethic in 90-days to determine if you are worthy of being employed with their company.

Before interviewing your potential mate for a significant role in your life; first write down a clear description of what it is you want in a relationship. You must first establish the description, skills and experience that are needed to be in a loving relationship with you. Consider what your needs are now and how they will change over time. An employer�s ninety day assessment is analogous to dating relationships. You only need three months to determine if this person is worthy of investing your heart into the relationship.

Most people see warning signs, but think that time will change that person as opposed to time revealing to you who that person is. What a person reveals to you early in the relationship usually doesn�t change. They show you through words or deeds who they are. If you mainly focus on what you have to give the relationship, you�ll never see what the other person have to offer and secondly, determine if you are interested in what they are presenting to you.

Read the following ninety day assessment to determine if you should hire, fire or put your lover on probation.

When you first began dating him, he enjoyed going to clubs, plays and spending time at the coffee shop. Six weeks into the relationship, he can�t seem to turn the television off. You�re baffled. How could he change from Mr. Social Butterfly to Mr. Couch Potato in a matter of weeks? It�s simple. During the mating dance, in the early stages of the relationship people try to impress each other. Don�t take their dating mask at face value. The purpose of this mask is to attract and reel in a mate, but is not representative of what they are really like in a long term relationship.

Warning: Pay more attention to a person�s behavior patterns than their words. In addition to your ears, listen with your eyes. If he is telling you that he loves you and his actions indicate otherwise; believe what you see.

Take note as to why his previous relationships ended. Is he newly single because he was caught cheating on his ex-wife? Ask questions and listen to him carefully as to how he treated the women is his past. This is a good indicator as to how he will treat you in the future.

Pay close attention to how he feels about his mother and other female family members. Consciously or unconsciously most men will gauge the character of other women by their mother�s behavior. A male client once stated, �I can never trust any woman because I saw my mother having sex with my father�s brother. Dinner was always, hot, delicious and on-time when my father came home. I now see all women as two-faced whores.� He told his wife this on their first date, but she continues to wonder why he doesn�t trust her.

Bi-sexuality in more common than most people would like to admit to. Ask him if he has ever been involved in a same sex relationship in a nonjudgmental manner. You�ll never be woman enough to keep a man who is attracted to other men.

Does he call when he says that he will; is he dependable and reliable? Does he tell you that he is coming over and doesn�t show up or explain what happened? You can�t predict his behavior from one moment to the next.

He still resides in the same home with his wife or girlfriend, but is in the process of find his own place. If he had not found his own place in ninety days, tell him to call you after he has moved out on his own.

What is he looking for in a relationship and where does he see himself in five years. Are you looking for a husband with a man who has clearly stated that he is not interested in getting married or is afraid of commitments? Your kisses will not dazzle him into changing his mind. If you want marriage and he doesn�t, keep looking.

Within 90 days in most cases, you should have had your first disagreement. How does he express himself when he is angry? Is he physically or verbally abusive? If so, chances are he is not going to change.

Has he introduced you to anyone important to him? Have you met his family, close friends or job colleagues? Meeting people who know him will tell you more about him that anything he could ever tell you.

Has he ever been involved with the law? What places have he traveled to? What are some of his major dreams? What is his middle name, favorite movies, songs, and games. Be creative in discovering if the person you are dating possess the characteristics that will make you happy in a relationship.

Cassandra George Sturges MA, MA, Psy.D is a mother of two teenagers, a full-time psychology instructor, advice columnists for Today's Black Woman Magazine, Seminar facilitator, author of "A Woman's Soul on Paper" ISBN: 0595171435. Dr. Sturges is the author and publisher of Authentik Beauty Magazine. A 1 year subscription to Authentik Beauty Magazine is only $49.99 for 6 issues; mail request to: Authentik Beauty Magazine, P.O. Box 980679, Ypsilanti, MI 48197. Caution: Articles and clip art are sensuously and beautifully designed for a mature audience only. We accept cash, checks & all major credit cards.

5 Tips To Finding Out What A Man Is Looking For In A Woman And How To Make Him Fall In Love With You

By Connie Ragen Green

If you have met the man that you would like to marry and spend the rest of your life with you are probably very happy. That is, unless this man does not feel the same way about you. How do you make a man fall in love with you? Here are 5 tips on what a man wants in a woman and how to make that man fall in love with you.

1. Friendship � Men place a high value on friendship. In fact, they care more about friendship than they do about sex. This should not come as such a surprise. Men value close friendships more than women do and will do most anything to keep a friendship that they deem worthwhile and meaningful. So being a true friend to your man is the first step in winning his heart.
2. Independence � Men love women who love them, but they also rate as high on their list a woman who has other loves. These loves can be her children, her family, her career, her hobby; anything that she has a passion for and spends time working at to improve. Men love it when their woman is completely wrapped up in something that she can be proud of doing.
3. Separate Time � Men, like women, need time away from each other once I a while. Men love women who don�t mind it when they are going to spend time with friends or coworkers going out for a drink, watching a sporting event, or just hanging out. Men need some time to themselves. Take advantage of that and spend that time doing things you want to do with others or alone.
4. Confidence � Men love women who have self confidence and high self-esteem. Knowing who you are and what you want can be so appealing to a man that it will make him love you even more than he thought he did. Speak up for what you want and take a stand on issues that are important to you. You�ll be glad you did when you see his reaction.
5. Good Judgment � Men love women who can make intelligent decisions and know when something needs to be done. Playing dumb will turn a man off so show him that you can take care of business and still be there for him as well.

Read over these 5 tips and see what you can change in you own relationship. Men love to be in love so when you have found the right man for you don�t let him get away without making him fall in love with you, completely and forever.

Relationships are never easy but you can help them go more smoothly.

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Dating Advice - Horseshoe Crabs Do it! - Four Tips to Naturally Find a Mate

By Ronnie Ann Ryan

The other night I was walking along the beach in the moon light, just at the water's edge and noticed a few odd bumps - that were moving! Turns out this is the time of year when horseshoe crabs mate. Very romantic. At first I thought - "Get a room!" How silly - they're just crabs doing what comes naturally.

So how is it that we humans encounter such difficulties in finding a good mate when it should be a completely natural process? It starts with being single in mid-life, a time when we have grown accustomed to our own ways of doing things. And we have baggage - love history from previous relationships gone wrong. All this and many other factors contribute to a vast adult single population who feels lonely and sometimes apathetic about even looking for love.

But let's think back to the crabs. For them, finding a mate seems so much simpler and easier. How do horseshoe crabs find each other attractive? Well they probably have far fewer "must haves" than we do. Or maybe they're just more open-minded. Hard to say. The question is - can we learn from our frisky friends?

I believe we can and here are four perspectives about dating and potential partners that might help loosen up some of the strict criteria that actually keeps people single.

1. Friendly or Critical Thoughts?
When you see the opposite sex walking down the street, do you think critical thoughts or friendly thoughts? Who knows why human nature usually resorts to critical thinking, but chances are strong your heart is not open to those you pass by when you are critical. (Sometimes this is appropriate, but not always.) Try letting go of some criticism, and imagine what might make that person who passes by a good catch? This is a fantastic exercise that opens your heart and creates positive vibes - which by the way make YOU more attractive too.

2. Let Your Guard Down to Connect.
What if you relax and just try getting to know a few new people? Often people will surprise you if you give them a chance. Open up and allow a man or woman who is less than perfect into your world long enough to see if there is any merit, rather than shutting the door with a snap judgment. When you let your guard down a bit, connecting becomes more possible.

3. Think Well of Yourself.
It's been said many times, if you want to be treated with respect, respect yourself first. That's good advice. Take care of and treasure yourself. Get a new hair cut, buy some new clothes, eat well, walk with good posture; head up and shoulders back. Work on your self esteem to know you are worthy of love and a good relationship. Someone would be darn lucky to have you!

4. Keep Your Expectations in Check.
If a prospect doesn't work out, move on! The world is well populated with options for you, so don't cry too long over the one who got away. This is especially true when you've had a brief relationship or one that didn't quite materialize. Too often people get hung up in just being rejected at first email contact on dating sites. There are millions of people on those sites. Move on to someone better! It takes some effort to find the gems, but it's worth it.

Of course, there's no way to verify, but I do think horseshoe crabs live and mate by these guidelines. (I'm not sure how much thinking crabs do, just go with it. Hey. Maybe that's actually the best advice here anyway.) Animals are naturally open to opportunities, think positively, know they are worthy and move on when rejected to find a better partner. Give it a try and take advantage of this glorious weather and the best time of year to find your own mate. Chances are very good that you'll be happy you did.

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Dating Strategies for Grown Ups - Embracing the Benefits of Mature Love

By Judy Armes

Think back to when you were 16 or 17. What characteristics did you seek in a boyfriend or girlfriend? If you're honest, you might remember that your #1 requirement was: "Is she (or he) breathing?" Of course, we all wanted the cheerleader or the captain of the football team--but we'd settle for almost anyone who would show a little interest in us. And as likely as not, we'd imagine a fantastical drama about our relationship, creating an enormous ordeal of ecstasy and agony!

As you reminisce about your early relationships, do you remember if you were self-centered or other-centered in your puppy love. Try putting yourself back in your teenager mind-set. When you dated, were you more focused on YOUR own performance (your clothing, your pleasure, your behavior) or did you consider your partner's concerns?

Few teenagers are mature enough to be other-centered. In fact, it is the developmental task of adolescents (It's their JOB!) to view the world from their ego-centric position and to experiment with behaviors and attitudes that they see around them. Seeking a sense of independence, teenagers strongly identify with some and fiercely reject others as it serves them. Their self-perception and personal satisfaction depends upon the reflection and reactive input they get from others--very ego-centric.

As mature adults we've successfully emerged from adolescence, advanced to the young-adult stage, and many married and raised families. And, now some of us are single again. Despite an accumulation of additional birthdays and more extensive experience, grown-ups are often just as uncomfortable and nervous about "dating" as their junior counterparts. And, due to a lack of credible models of mature partner-seeking behaviors many grown-ups feel a bit lost. They know what doesn't work; but their vision about what might work differently is elusive.

The challenge of being a single grown-up seeking a meaningful and satisfying relationship isn't easy because it seems like navigating uncharted waters. But we've got skills, experience (and maturity!) on our side.

One benefit of maturity is practical optimism--grown-ups have learned there are usually multiple methods to achieve a goal. Even if a specific strategy is not immediately obvious, grown-ups know they can research, learn and succeed with some effort. When the goin' gets tough, they go 'n get more information.

Another benefit of maturity is an appreciation of reality. Grown-ups have learned that people are multi-dimensional. Our relationships are more than skin-deep!!! We accept and honor the surface AND subtle characteristics of friends, family and lovers.

And, perhaps the greatest benefit of maturity is the preference for balance or moderation. When seeking a life-partner, grown-ups are more likely to seek partners based upon a combination of head-and-heart criteria--excitement AND comfort.

Mature relationships take on a very different style and intention than the younger set's single-dimension romantic relationships. This doesn't mean that romance isn't important--it just isn't everything.

Members of the older-and-wiser group are looking for compatible characteristics, commonality, and aligned beliefs/philosophy when considering their next partner. If you're a single grown-up looking for a life partner, you might find benefit in doing a little research to discover how you've changed your perceptions about relationships and how you can intentionally move toward finding your own relationship according to your own unique character. For a helpful first step, you're invited to visit: http://www.MatchMadeInHeaven2007.com

Successful Dating for Grown-Ups - Spontaneity is Over-rated - Planning is the Secret

By Judy Armes

The statistics for successful marriage counseling are not good. Most couples wait until the fuse is too close to the dynamite before seeking professional counseling. Now this is profound: rather than waiting for coupling issues to explode, why not become proficient in the skill of discernment and partner selection BEFORE coupling-up? Instead of relying on the whim of chance or the risks of "romance", why not create an intelligent, intentional plan for selecting a life partner?

You might answer, #1 because it isn't "romantic" (like divorce is???) and #2 because nobody does it that way!!!! There isn't a model for mature, aware and conscious marriages...so how would someone go about it?

There's another covert challenge to overcome: unconscious thought. Most single adults "date" like adolescents. 1) We automatically pose, puff and generally market (what we think are) our best attributes and hide the worst. 2) We all harbor unexplored beliefs and assumptions that lurk so far under the radar that we don't even suspect they exist. And 3) most of our learned ideas about relationships are WRONG....at least they don't seem to work out very well. And most of us have no clue as to their origin or the extent that they control us.

Do you like to watch movies? Even if you've already seen it, you might want to re-visit "Something's Gotta Give" with Diane Keaton & Jack Nicholson. Although their years attest their claim to maturity, they relate with each other like teenagers. They are grayer; they are richer; and they have keener relationship skills--except with each other.

It seems they are stuck in an "age-warp". He is an older version of the horny football captain and she is an older version of the idealistic prom queen. He wants an uncomplicated and convenient physical relationship; she wants romance and exclusivity. They don't quite match up, do they?

Despite their years, neither has any experience in creating a unique mature relationship. Without a model or experience in relating as romantic adults they seem trapped in their adolescent mode of behaviors and notions.

Like most romantic comedies, the rest of the movie is vignette after vignette of trials, errors, upsets and misunderstandings. Both know they WANT to get together, but neither knows how to get past their own issues. Through the course of the movie (because the script-writers are clever and adept), our hero and heroine learn about what really counts, how to take care of themselves as individuals and how to reflect on what they really want. But they are uncontrollably pushed and pulled by the events and their emotions rather than consciously choosing and responding from a position of personal strength.

And, here's where Hollywood makes a u-turn: "The End" is really the beginning and we don't get to see how they continue to resolve their day-to-day relationship challenges. We assume they live happily ever after...despite the fact that neither has explored the context of their experience.

So what to do? Become more intentional and aware of yourself and your relationships.

• Explore, Observe, Study, Imagine, Dream-- careful introspection is wise. Few people (maybe none!) are totally unaffected by their experience and life events. So, if you have been around the block a few times, you might want to re-assess your beliefs and notions that have evolved as a result of your experience. You are not the same person you were when you were 20...or 30...or 40. It doesn't make sense that you have frozen your requirements, needs and wants in a time capsule--they have matured with you. So, dig 'em up and take a careful thoughtful look at them. Throw away those that no longer fit and think about including possible new ones.
• Create a Plan. When you are clear about what characteristics you want in a partner and a partnership, make a list--but don't go "shopping". Re-read, revise and re-write your list over a few weeks (at least). Then delete or add characteristics as appropriate. This is YOUR list and YOUR life--you might as well have it the way you want it!
• Finally, Get Creative. Think of places you are likely to meet the person with the characteristics you're seeking. And get yourself out there. Look for a "friend" first; someone who aligns with you and resonates with your personality and lifestyle. Take it slowly and with care.

Finding a person with whom you are truly compatible seldom happens by accident. It can, but the odds don't favor "good luck". If you are interested in discovering specific steps toward starting your own intentional "find-a-partner" project, please visit: http://www.MatchMadeInHeaven2007.com A quick look-see might make all the difference in discovering options and making a plan.

Single and Dating? What's Age Got To Do With It?

By Judy Armes

The concept of "Age" is mysterious to me. Other cultures seem to "respect their elders", seek advice and guidance from them and demonstrate loyalty and pride for the older members of their families and communities. Only in our American culture is age considered
1) a condition to be avoided,
2) an inevitability to be hidden and
3) evidence of decline.

Age as it relates to romance is particularly perplexing. In the western cultures, romance is an inalienable right of the young. Flagrant displays of affection and public romantic gestures are tolerated and expected of youthful lovers. Media portrayals of impulsive and careless romantic encounters are the norm and "falling in love" is the implied explanation. On the other hand, if young folks pause to ask the biological question, "Where did I come from?", they likely follow-up the thought with "ee-ue" (the common verbal utterance of disgust) as they envision their parents "doing it".

As grown-ups in a youth-dominated culture, we might imagine that our romance days are over--unless we can recapture membership in the youth club. Baby-boomer themes are more prevalent in movies, books and television programs, but many of youth-challenged people might still feel out-of-place, especially if they are single.

Our schizoid attitude about aging and romance is particularly evident when marriages break-up. Women suddenly lose those few extra pounds; Men start seeking more youthful partners. When they were coupled up, the need to compete was a low priority. But, when they are newly single, many grown-ups feel cut-loose on a sea without a chart or a compass.

What are they supposed to do now? The old rules don't seem to fit and the new rules are a mystery--and newly-single folks often revert to what they did when they were teenagers. Many women often automatically play dress-em-up to attract a new partner and many men become pirates seeking a new treasure.

So, what's a single middle-aged person to do? Dial-a-date? Surf-the-net? These strategies may be standard for the younger set who grew up with the technology. But for lots of folks technology lacks the more personal approach we used in our youth. Plus, for many it seems to push "romance" into a data oriented frame without the tried-and-true pace of in-person exploration.

As a grown-up, you might wonder, what now? How do we proceed in this fast-paced world of instant messaging and e-mail? Perhaps the answer is to assess our the skills, attitudes and notions about how to use our maturity to get the life (and love) we want.

Step 1--Act your Age. That doesn't mean settle in or give up. Instead, take advantage of your wealth of experience and your more moderate notions of romantic love. There are lots of potential partners who are looking for someone just like you, who knows what you know and wants what you want.

Step 2--Don't Act your Age. Sometimes grown-ups get just a little stuck in their ways (just a little!). A useful lesson to be learned by observing younger people is the value of flexibility. You may reject their MTV approach of "anything goes". But it might be mind-broadening to experiment with new activities, new social groups and new ideas. Research a possible new hobby/interest; make a new friend; try out a new restaurant.

Step 3--Do Your Homework. If you feel uncomfortable in today's fast-paced, get-er-done world, research options in relationship building that suit you. Talk to friends--get their thoughts about how you might go about finding a new partner. Read a book about personal relationships and how other people go about finding them.

Step 4--Introspect, introspect, introspect! Look inside and discover the new you that has evolved while you've been busy with life itself. People date for a variety of reasons...just for fun, for the challenge, for relief from loneliness--and some date as part of their strategy to find a new life-partner. The first step in making a match is to be clear about what characteristics you want in a partner and in a partnership...so you'll recognize them when you see them.

If you do what you've always done before, the likely outcome is to end up precisely where you are right now. So, do something different and see what happens! If introspection is new for you, if you see the value but don't know where to start, you're invited to visit: http://www.MatchMadeInHeaven2007.com --Make this the year that you change your perspective--and maybe your relationship goals! Make this the year you actively create the life you want, sharing it with the people who support your satisfaction and success.

Dating Tips for Boomer Women: Do You Have Time to Date?

By Ronnie Ann Ryan

Dating in Mid-Life Can Be Daunting

If you've been out of circulation for a while and are newly single, the idea of dating can be daunting. You may have many concerns about starting again in mid-life, never mind the emotional baggage that comes from a break up or divorce. Never the less, you are thinking about meeting new people. As a dating coach, let me start by saying, "Hooray!" and "Good for you." Breaking out of non-dating inertia is more than half the battle.

Yet, dating in mid-life is far more complicated then when you were in your 20's. There are many reasons this is true. First of all, by the time you reach your 40's, you have established the way you live life. You have habits, patterns, methods that you follow. Plus, there are responsibilities like children, pets, aging parents, and career that take up the majority of your free time. And let's not forget about household chores, exercise, personal care and volunteer work.

Who has Time to Date? So who has time for dating? How are you supposed to fit another activity into your crazy, busy life? There's only one way � you make time. If meeting someone special is truly your goal, you will need to carve out space in your calendar and commit to getting out there.

Dating is a Lifestyle Choice
Looking for a loving relationship is actually a lifestyle choice. The truth is you could live a very happy, full life as a single woman. And many women do choose this � which is great. But if you want to date, understand it is a conscious choice you are making. That means if you want to achieve your goal and find a new man, you'll need to invest in the process to get there.

Create a Plan to Meet People
Something's gotta give right? So in order to squeeze socializing into your schedule, there will be something else that falls by the wayside. Acknowledge this seemingly obvious fact right now. Then begin to create a plan for meeting new people. How often will you go to singles' events? Will you try online dating and how often will you log on to check your account? The good news is that you are in charge and can spend as little or as much time as you choose.

Dating is a Numbers Game
However, stating that you want love and whining that you don't have time is a contradiction that can erode your self-esteem. Because the truth is, people make time for what they truly want. So admit that you really want a man in your life, carve the time out of your calendar, and follow through by attending the selected events. Dating is a numbers game �the more men you meet, the better your chances of finding the right man for you.

Now is the Best Time to be a Single Adult
The good news is, there has never been a better time to be a single adult. In the history of the world, this is the very first time that so many adults are single in mid-life! Why wait around complaining and doing nothing about having a partner? Get in the game, because just like the lottery, you can't win if you don't play.

Take a Chance on Love
Roll the dice and make time to look for love. Once you find him and the love you dream of, you'll realize how every moment invested in your search was completely worth it! From what my successful clients have to say about falling in love, and what I know from my own personal journey to meet and marry my husband, chances are very strong that your efforts will be richly rewarded.

To get f*r*e*e advice on 10 Reasons Why Women Should Never Pay on the First Date, visit http://www.NeverTooLate.biz Check out the book MANifesting Mr. Right: It�s Never Too Late to Find the Love You Want by Dating Coach and expert Ronnie Ann Ryan at http://www.ManifestingMrRight.com

Dating Tips for Boomer Women: Do You Have Time to Date?

By Ronnie Ann Ryan

Dating in Mid-Life Can Be Daunting

If you've been out of circulation for a while and are newly single, the idea of dating can be daunting. You may have many concerns about starting again in mid-life, never mind the emotional baggage that comes from a break up or divorce. Never the less, you are thinking about meeting new people. As a dating coach, let me start by saying, "Hooray!" and "Good for you." Breaking out of non-dating inertia is more than half the battle.

Yet, dating in mid-life is far more complicated then when you were in your 20's. There are many reasons this is true. First of all, by the time you reach your 40's, you have established the way you live life. You have habits, patterns, methods that you follow. Plus, there are responsibilities like children, pets, aging parents, and career that take up the majority of your free time. And let's not forget about household chores, exercise, personal care and volunteer work.

Who has Time to Date? So who has time for dating? How are you supposed to fit another activity into your crazy, busy life? There's only one way � you make time. If meeting someone special is truly your goal, you will need to carve out space in your calendar and commit to getting out there.

Dating is a Lifestyle Choice
Looking for a loving relationship is actually a lifestyle choice. The truth is you could live a very happy, full life as a single woman. And many women do choose this � which is great. But if you want to date, understand it is a conscious choice you are making. That means if you want to achieve your goal and find a new man, you'll need to invest in the process to get there.

Create a Plan to Meet People
Something's gotta give right? So in order to squeeze socializing into your schedule, there will be something else that falls by the wayside. Acknowledge this seemingly obvious fact right now. Then begin to create a plan for meeting new people. How often will you go to singles' events? Will you try online dating and how often will you log on to check your account? The good news is that you are in charge and can spend as little or as much time as you choose.

Dating is a Numbers Game
However, stating that you want love and whining that you don't have time is a contradiction that can erode your self-esteem. Because the truth is, people make time for what they truly want. So admit that you really want a man in your life, carve the time out of your calendar, and follow through by attending the selected events. Dating is a numbers game �the more men you meet, the better your chances of finding the right man for you.

Now is the Best Time to be a Single Adult
The good news is, there has never been a better time to be a single adult. In the history of the world, this is the very first time that so many adults are single in mid-life! Why wait around complaining and doing nothing about having a partner? Get in the game, because just like the lottery, you can't win if you don't play.

Take a Chance on Love
Roll the dice and make time to look for love. Once you find him and the love you dream of, you'll realize how every moment invested in your search was completely worth it! From what my successful clients have to say about falling in love, and what I know from my own personal journey to meet and marry my husband, chances are very strong that your efforts will be richly rewarded.

To get f*r*e*e advice on 10 Reasons Why Women Should Never Pay on the First Date, visit http://www.NeverTooLate.biz Check out the book MANifesting Mr. Right: It�s Never Too Late to Find the Love You Want by Dating Coach and expert Ronnie Ann Ryan at http://www.ManifestingMrRight.com

Dating After 50 - Start the Next Half Century With a Bang!

By Kelly Connell

You may think that if you are over 50 meeting someone is impossible. Not true! While it is not the same as meeting people when you are in your 20�s and 30�s there are plenty of singles over 50 just waiting to meet someone special. If you are like a lot of people, the bar scene grows tiresome and at your age you may feel that has to be a better way! There are many alternatives out there that may lead you to meet a new romance, a serious relationship or just a friend-and who doesn�t need more friends?

Take a look at the list below and consider trying these venues to meet someone new. Remember, nothing ventured, nothing gained!

1)Senior Centers. OK, this may bring to mind a place where old fogies go to vegetate but nothing could be further from the truth! These days it is all about staying active to stay healthy and young! Today�s senior centers are hubs of activity, many of which are geared toward singles. They have mixers, classes, card games, travel and much more. Even if you don�t meet a special someone, I doubt you will be bored.

2)Religious Services. If you practice a religion or believe in a particular faith but do not currently attend services, consider visiting a Church or Temple. Chances are you will meet someone with like values, plus they are always welcoming to visitors or new members. Check out more than one to see which has a population similar to your age.

3)School. What? Did she just say school? You bet! Many people go back to school after retirement and take classes just for fun. Many really want to finish a degree. Non traditional students have to stick together and often seek each other out in order to be around other students they have something in common with.

4)Singles events. Check in your local paper or entertainment guide for a listing of singles events in your area. Speed dating is often organized by age groups. There are also dances, happy hours and other activities that are often geared just toward people over 50.

5) Online dating. This is the newest thing out there. There are dating websites just for people over 50. It allows you to go at your own pace in getting to know someone before you meet and helps you find not only eligible people but people you are compatible with. You can put in your zip code and get a plethora of available people near you complete with profiles and pictures. You use a screen name so you have privacy, and if you don�t think you will be a good match with someone there is no obligation to continue contact with them. Now days most people have a personal computer so posting a profile is no problem. If you don�t have a computer, you can use one at the library for free. It can be hard to meet people but so many people spend a significant amount of time online using online dating sites can produce great results.

One thing to keep in mind is that you are not the only person out there looking for someone. You may feel like the only single person out there but the truth is there are a lot of people in the same boat. You just have to find them. I just gave you five great ways. So what are you waiting for? Put yourself out there and see what happens!

Kelly Connell better known online as "SexPert Kelly" is a contributing author to many sites dealing with Human Sexuality, Dating and Relationships. Her newest project covers online dating and how the newly single amongst us can maximize their online dating experiences while minimizing the disasters..:-) click here to read more!

How To Create A Catchy Screen Name

By Jack Strom

All dating sites require that their members create a screen name. This is the name that will be shown on all your postings next to your photo and profile. It's the name that you will be known by to all initial prospects, both members and non-members.

Some dating sites give their members the flexibility to get creative on coming up with interesting screen names, while other sites just take your name and add their own ID code to it. For example, matchmaker.com allows you to choose any name you want, provided that it's not explicit. The site will then assign a three digit number next to the name. So if you use the name "Jennifer" for example, you will probably get the screen name "Jennifer123". Granted that this is not a very creative way to establish your identity, but for a lot of people, this process takes away the pressure of having to come up with a catchy screen name.

Many dating sites here in the U.S. allow their members to submit a short name other than a first name and include a number next to it if the name chosen has already been used, such as the case with Update.com. At match.com, members are allowed to use up to 128 characters that they can divide however they choose between a name and a tagline (a slogan or statement that describes and defines their personality). Many other sites have the same requirements for assigning a screen name.

The simplest way to establish a screen name is to use your own name, plus the assigned number that the site provides. But better yet, show some personality and try to think of a more unique and interesting name that better displays your character, personality, and/or passions. Some real examples of catchy screen names from several popular dating sites include: Qtblondbomb, Surfworld, LAreefer, Bookworm, Iluvcats, Fitgirl, Veganlover, Funindasun. These names gives the reader a clue of the member's style and personality.

Some Tips To Help You Pick A Good Screen Name

Avoid picking a screen name that is too explicit or too graphic. For example, names such as naughtykitty, Ezbrod, Hard1, etc. The site moderator will more than likely delete it or will ask you to change it. Have fun, be creative, but be responsible and use your better judgment when coming up with an interesting screen name.

Some sites retrieve the names of their members in alphabetical order. That means if your screen name is Zorro, chances are you will end up at the bottom of the list. However, if you really want to keep that screen name, you could add the letter A in front of the name (Azorro).

If you choose a dating site that does not allow you to have more than a few numbers of characters (such as a 10-20 letter limit), you have two options in selecting a screen name. You can simply pick a name of a person (whether it is your real name or not), or you can come up with something unique and creative.

If you choose a dating site that gives you more space to work with, have fun with it and try to pick one that really makes you stand out!

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Is It OK To Lie About Your Age Online?

By Melissa Becker

Age is just a number. Your driver�s license might say that you�re over fifty but you still have the energy and focus you did in your twenties. Unfortunately, when someone asks you how old you are they usually don�t care about how old you feel. Ageism runs throughout society and it can be hard to overcome the stereotypes of what someone your age is expected to look and act like. It is enough to make a mature single person start to consider shaving a few years off of their age.

In a perfect world potential dates would be able to get the time to know you and your personality before deciding if they want to start a relationship or not. But usually people don�t have the time to really get to know someone so instead they make decisions based on arbitrary things like age. It�s possible that there is a perfect match for you out there who hasn�t met you yet because they are one or two years out of their ideal age range. It can be especially hard for people using Internet dating sites where users are able to sort perspective matches by age. So with one click of a button a fun and feisty sixty-one year old could be left out even though she may look and act younger then the fifty-nine year old that makes the cut.

On the other hand it is never a good idea to begin a relationship with deception. At some point your real age is going to come out, probably on your next birthday, and then you need to be able to explain your motives and rational. I remember a story of a couple who were moving in together to an apartment and had to fill out forms for a background check. When the apartment manager called back to alert them that the information she supplied came back as fraudulent she had to very quickly confess the truth and it was very embarrassing for everyone involved. It�s even possible that you could lose the relationship because of this small lie because the trust is broken. These are the things you have to weigh before deciding if you are going to start fibbing about how old you are.

If you do decide that it is worth the risks then you should be realistic in your deception. Pretending to be a year or two younger is one thing but when you start taking off decades it looks ridiculous. Also, it is much harder to be forgiven for a couple years then five or ten of them. And just because you are altering your age doesn�t mean that you should start trying to equally adjust the ages of everyone around you. Trying to pretend that your children and grandchildren are also younger starts to get very complicated, not to mention that while you have the right to lie about yourself you don�t have the right to do the same for somebody else. Finally, you need to have an exit plan. Set a point in your mind early in the relationship, one the sixth or eighth date for example, when you are going to come clean. Give them just enough time to get to know how vivacious and youthful you are so that they can see that you are not defined by your age. But the longer you wait to tell the truth the harder it is going to be.

Of course the bigger question is if you really want to be involved with someone who considers youth to be a defining factor? Don�t let society pressure you into changing who you are in an effort to fit in. You age is something you should be proud of because is a symbol of your experience and maturity. Even if you do choose to fib about your age to try and meet somebody don�t let the lie consume you to the point that you feel embarrassed by the truth. Growing old isn�t easy, but it is better then the alternative.

Melissa Becker is a contributing writer for http://www.peoplefishing.com, a free online dating service.

Biker Dating Sites - Who Joins?

By Noel Davidson

The abundance of dating sites has spawned many niche sites that cater for those people who have similar interests, one of these personals sites are biker dating sites specifically for bikers and motorcyclists.

Biker dating sites allow biker singles from all over the world to make contact virtually instantly and have a conversation base that makes new introductions run smoothly and effortlessly. We all would rather avoid awkward back and forth questioning trying to find something in common, here the ice is broken by the love of motorcycles and the lifestyle they bring.

Many singles are joining up with members riding Harley-Davidson, Yamaha, Honda, Ducati, Kawasaki, Suzuki, Gold Wing, BMW, Triumph, BSA, Indian Motorcycles, Choppers and Trikes. Motorcycles gives both parties something in common to discuss right away without having to dig into areas that may be awkward for either party, allowing communication to evolve naturally over time.

Online dating is now the world's most popular means for meeting a romantic partner with 1 in 10 web surfers seeking relationships online. This is a changing trend that is here to stay; with so many different people searching it makes perfect sense to find the sites that cater to like minded people, Biker dating sites have this ability.

A recent review of the dating site A1-BikerPersonals revealed some interesting statistics about the demographics of biker singles. These results were calculated from the last 1000 members in 2007.

The largest membership group, including men and women of the site was in the 45 to 59 year old bracket with 49.6% of active memberships, this was followed closely by the over 30 to 45 age group with 44.2% of members, the next group was 20 to 35 year olds with 3.4% and then over the 60s group with 2.17% .

Of these groups men contributed to 50% of members and 47% of members are women, of the balance of those 3% were a mix if gay males, lesbian females and bisexuals male and female.

While the majority of biker singles online memberships were from the USA and Canada, 12.5% of other members are in the UK, followed 3% in Europe, Australia, South Africa, Asia, Egypt and India to name a few. These results show that motorcycle personals are world wide allowing single bikers to make contact in any country.

For years, bikers have always had a certain infamous reputation. They are often depicted by media, particularly in films, as the proponents of massive brawls and unprovoked violence and are often stereo typed as people who are uneducated and have nothing better to do than terrorize people.

This is a false belief as the majority of biker singles are responsible bikers who bring numerous contributions to society, check our biker dating site for "who's online" to see the type of people who share the passion and the freedom that motorcycles bring.

Our biker dating service never looked so good!

Noel is the web owner of http://www.datingtango.com a website that provides information and resources on niche dating sites for all singles. You can visit his website at: http://www.datingtango.com Online Dating

Dating Advice for Boomer Women - When is it OK to Roll in the Hay?

By Ronnie Ann Ryan

Just the other day one of my clients wanted to talk about sex. She had questions about when it's OK to become intimate. We discussed the old saying, "Why buy the cow when the milk is free?" Does this archaic way of looking at sex still hold true? Do men still think this way?

Well, it depends. It depends on the man, the religious beliefs, the timing, and many other factors. Very conservative folks say you should wait until marriage. OK, but that might be easier said then done. Others say men don't respect women who sleep with them on the first date. So those are the two ends of the spectrum - but there is a huge amount of gray area in between and that's where most people reside.

So, I'll be addressing you "gray area" folks. When is it OK to roll in the hay? It's a totally personal choice. If you are a very emotional person and know that you get attached after having sex, then it might be wise to hold off and spend more time getting to know your date. Really learn about each other and see if the person is worthy of your heart, mind and body. If you are a more casual type who can separate sex and emotional attachment, you have more flexibility because you aren't as concerned about the outcome or rejection.

Honestly, there is no one rule. Although, according to many men, there is the Three Date Rule - the idea being that the third date is the most likely time for a first encounter. But who said women are on board with this rule?

For the ladies, I say, make your own rules! You know yourself and what works best better than anyone else does. Ask for advice and you'll get a wide range of opinions and probably get confused as well. In truth, only one opinion matters and that is YOURS.

Do what feels right for you. You want to put off having sex - good for you. You feel comfortable going for it earlier - that's your choice too.

But how do you know which men don't care if you're "easy" and which men are a more traditional? Ahhh, that's the catch. You don't know until you get to know him better. And that is why I feel waiting is just smart. It gives you time for some good data gathering to find out who he is, what he believes and how you two are together. You really can't lose when you hold off when you are looking for a loving, lasting relationship.

So how long is a while? I have one client who read somewhere that you should wait 30 hours. That's in-person time and phone calls count too. Others think the fourth date is fine, or the six, or the tenth. Of course how many hours are in one date and do you count all of them too? Let's not get crazy!

Why not choose a number of dates that seems like a long enough time for you and go from there. Make that part of your dating protocol and don't re-decide each time you meet a new man. If you stick to your own rules, it makes life so much easier, reduces stress, and gives you an easy out because you can simply say, "I'm not ready yet."

One piece of advice I can give you is not to tell the man you are dating WHEN you will be ready. This is a negotiating mistake of gigantic proportions. Some men might find it a fun challenge to hang in and wait just for the sake of it. Instead, keep your count down close to the vest. That keeps the sexual tension going and leaves you a mystery - most men love a good mystery, especially of this nature. For more tips about Dating Protocol, read my book Manifesting Mr. Right: It's Never Too Late to Find the Love You Want.

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Dating Advice for Boomer Women - Adopt the Dating State of Mind

By Ronnie Ann Ryan

If you want to be in a relationship, the first step to your search is getting into a dating state of mind. I call this Adopting Dater�s Mind. When you have dater�s mind, you think of yourself as someone who dates. Sounds silly huh? Not really. If you don�t think of yourself this way, then you probably aren�t connected to your feminine allure either.

Now that�s a problem. It makes dating much more of a struggle.

Without feeling attractive, knowing that you are worthy, that men will notice you, and approach you, it�s pretty hard to jump the gap to actually getting out there and meeting prospects. I�m working with a woman right now who hasn�t been doing her coaching homework. She claims she is too busy, but this is a smoke screen.

How do I know? From talking with over 1,000 women you catch on. Either she doesn�t really want to date, it�s not one of her biggest priorities or in this case - she doesn�t see herself as someone who dates!

Yikes!

The solution? Get connected with your allure ASAP. And here�s how:
1) Pampering - from getting a new hairstyle, new color, highlights, facial, new makeup, make over, manicure and pedicure - anything that beautifies will increase your self-esteem and make you feel more beautiful. When you think you look good - YOU DO! 80% of your beauty is how you feel about yourself. Keep that in mind.

2) Is your underwear drawer filled with old cotton comfy favorites? Go get some new lingerie please! It doesn�t have to be expensive. If you don�t want to take a trip to Victoria� s Secret, then try Marshalls or TJMaxx (two of my personal favorites). I�m not talking about thongs or being uncomfortable. Get some color, satin or lace and wear them to work!

3) What do you like about yourself? Do you appreciate who you are? Pick out one feature and be thankful for it every day for 7 days. Then pick something else to appreciate. This builds your self-esteem and gets you in touch with what makes you attractive. And once again, feeling good about yourself shows - it becomes the non-verbal message you send out into the Universe.

4) Believe connecting with a good man is possible. If you doubt you can find one, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Chapter seven in my book MANifesting Mr. Right gives you 7 powerful MANifesting techniques that I used and plenty of successful clients have also used to start believing and attracting him into your life. Believing is crucial for your success.

All four of these tips will heighten your allure and keep the idea of being someone who dates front and center in your awareness. And that is just what you want. Whatever you put your attention is usually what you get. So start developing Dater�s Mind to attract the love you want. Do it for yourself today.

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Internet Dating - Internet Dating For Seniors

By Tenzin Williams

For the more senior folks trying your hand at internet dating can be a little scary. It is not the same as meeting some one face to face for a normal date. Dating is regularly been traditional for the younger generation who are in the early stages of exploring relationships to try their hand at dating. In society it has been a general assumption that most senior people are married or are past the dating stage in life. But that is no longer the case in the new age world. More and more folks of all ages, race and sexual orientation are trying their hand at internet dating.

For the more senior folks internet dating can be heaps of fun even though it may be scary and daunting when they first give it a try. Internet dating is suited for the more senior folks as well as they have life experience, wisdom, knowledge, plus the maturity that comes with age.

Internet dating sites allow seniors the opportunity to meet other people around the same age who are looking for a relationship. This has normally been a challenge for the more elder people as the dating scene is targeted towards the young generation through venues like dance clubs, night clubs, bars and other such outlets. The problem faced for seniors is meeting other singles of the same age who are seeking partners or relationships.

The internet has opened up the opportunity for single senior people to meet others around the same age who are actively seeking a partner or some sort of relationship. Internet dating sites are a booming industry now and many sites are designed and cater for the more senior folks aged over 40. There are over 6 million seniors online looking for partners in internet dating sites on the internet today.

Most senior dating sites offer a free trial membership and providing excellent services like forum, chat rooms, and video, photo profiles. They also offer other tools that make your online experience a confidential and safe one.

It�s important when you sign up to any internet dating site that you make sure it is one that has a good reputation and has very good policies and procedures in place. It is important that you read the regulations before you sign up so you�re aware of what to expect.

Also for safety ensure your personal details remain private and never give out your residential address, financial details which identity thefts or other people can use for their own personal gain.

Try and create a profile that makes you stand out from the others. Try not to lie but add some flare so that it creates curiosity and intrigue. You want the other person to want to get to know you a little better so making your profile different from the normal mundane profile will surely ensure your success.

No matter if you�re a senior in your retirement years, newly divorced, recently widowed, lonely or isolated internet dating may just bring some fun, love, romance and companionship into your life.

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Internet Dating For The Senior Set

By Alan Lim

You can find many Internet dating sites that are used exclusively by the senior set, so you don�t have to waste time on dating sites that feature younger people looking to have fun or start families.

Why choose a senior citizen internet dating site?

Many of the more popular Internet dating sites is full of young and upcoming singles that are looking to make a permanent match, or looking to get loose and get funky. Those people who are a bit more mature are no longer into games and pretenses, and are usually looking for some reliable and comfortable companionship. Many seniors looking to find the best Internet dating site have recently lost their spouses and are used to having someone with which to enjoy their activities.

Finding someone in your own age group that has the same values and outlook on life can be hard if you are not on an Internet dating site that caters to an older crowd. You can find lots of lonely older folks that are looking for love and friendship that will be more than happy to chat and write to you, if not ready to offer you more.

Who uses a senior internet dating site?

With today�s advances in medical care and education regarding the link between your lifestyle and your life expectancy, more seniors than ever are staying active well into their golden years. Many are just not ready to hang up the notion that they too can find love. Many seniors you will find on Internet dating sites have been married previously; some are divorced and some are widowed. Many will have grown children or even grandchildren and you will have much to share because you are at the same point in life.

Some seniors aren�t looking for love or a date when they look for senior Internet dating sites. There are people who are just looking for a person they will be compatible with that they can travel to exotic locations. You don�t have to stay home if you have the urge to travel just because your friends and relatives can�t manage to come with you; you can log on to a senior dating website and choose the option of finding your ideal travel companion.

To Sum Things Up

No longer is the older generation computer illiterate. They have cell phones, palm pilots, computers, and can IM and text their friends and relatives. Why shouldn�t they take advantage of all the internet dating sites that are geared to their specific age group? After all, shouldn�t they have some fun too?

If you are a senior and you long for a companion to share your golden years with, check out Internet Dating and see what profiles of handsome and distinguished gentlemen they have available. You might just find yourself out dining and dancing with a dashing older man when you log on to this site.

Internet Dating For The Senior Set

By Alan Lim

You can find many Internet dating sites that are used exclusively by the senior set, so you don�t have to waste time on dating sites that feature younger people looking to have fun or start families.

Why choose a senior citizen internet dating site?

Many of the more popular Internet dating sites is full of young and upcoming singles that are looking to make a permanent match, or looking to get loose and get funky. Those people who are a bit more mature are no longer into games and pretenses, and are usually looking for some reliable and comfortable companionship. Many seniors looking to find the best Internet dating site have recently lost their spouses and are used to having someone with which to enjoy their activities.

Finding someone in your own age group that has the same values and outlook on life can be hard if you are not on an Internet dating site that caters to an older crowd. You can find lots of lonely older folks that are looking for love and friendship that will be more than happy to chat and write to you, if not ready to offer you more.

Who uses a senior internet dating site?

With today�s advances in medical care and education regarding the link between your lifestyle and your life expectancy, more seniors than ever are staying active well into their golden years. Many are just not ready to hang up the notion that they too can find love. Many seniors you will find on Internet dating sites have been married previously; some are divorced and some are widowed. Many will have grown children or even grandchildren and you will have much to share because you are at the same point in life.

Some seniors aren�t looking for love or a date when they look for senior Internet dating sites. There are people who are just looking for a person they will be compatible with that they can travel to exotic locations. You don�t have to stay home if you have the urge to travel just because your friends and relatives can�t manage to come with you; you can log on to a senior dating website and choose the option of finding your ideal travel companion.

To Sum Things Up

No longer is the older generation computer illiterate. They have cell phones, palm pilots, computers, and can IM and text their friends and relatives. Why shouldn�t they take advantage of all the internet dating sites that are geared to their specific age group? After all, shouldn�t they have some fun too?

If you are a senior and you long for a companion to share your golden years with, check out Internet Dating and see what profiles of handsome and distinguished gentlemen they have available. You might just find yourself out dining and dancing with a dashing older man when you log on to this site.

Should Seniors Consider Online Dating?

By Gail Anderson-Metcalf

Online dating isn't just for young people. Today there are many, many places online for vibrant, enthusiastic seniors to meet people. They all offer different services and provide features that you may or may not like. But in general, online dating can be a very positive experience for the single senior.

With an online dating service, there are lots of choices and dating opportunities. Not since high school or college will you find such a large number of potential dates and mates in one place. It can be heartening just to know that there are many single seniors out there who would love to find a loving partner.

Since there are so many people on the Internet dating scene, it should be enough proof that it does work, right? Some people are a little iffy about putting themselves out to strangers, but with the advancing technology making the world smaller and smaller everyday, the word "stranger" sometimes means nothing anymore.

Online dating sites give you a wide list of people to choose from. You can choose them because you have shared interests, belong to the same city, or whatever. And because dating sites have this vast list, you have the liberty to skip and choose. This actually erases having to care for a few caterpillars before you reach butterflies, if you know what I mean.

Dating sites cater to different needs. There are some that focus on letting single women meet single men. Some filter according to sexuality, religion, sex, or race -- the possibilities are endless. You name it; you bet there is something or someone out there who will fit just perfectly with what you're looking for.

The key to getting the most of your online dating site membership is to know what you want and what you're looking for, so you won't waste time trying to get to know people who turn out to be at the polar end of your character spectrum. Don't join a matchmaking site if you're just after the date's "fun" side. Don't join a Catholic site if you're Jewish. Things like that.

It's relatively inexpensive. While there are many free chat rooms and online personal sites, you may want to invest in paying a small fee to meet people who are more serious about meeting a quality partner. Even if you pay $25 to $50 to join, it's still cheaper than a senior cruise, and you don't have to leave home.

Profiles are a fun way to learn about people. Sites that offer space to write personal profiles that include hobbies, special interests, political beliefs, dreams, goals and favorite activities will give you the most accurate idea of what a person is like, and will help you decide if you have enough in common to make a connection.

It's easy to connect. By exchanging email you get to know each other slowly, without the awkwardness that comes with first dates. If you choose to meet, you'll already know a lot about each other, and that could help you both feel more comfortable. There are, however, downfalls to dating online. Some sites allow people to post their profiles and respond to others for free, but unfortunately these free sites often attract weirdos or perverts. It's important to check out the site carefully before you join. Plus, it can be risky when it comes to the people you will meet. After all, there are people out there who lie. You need to be cautious. In an effort to get more responses, or in some cases to deliberately mislead, some people lie in their profiles. Don't believe everything you read-if he or she sounds too good to be true, he or she probably is.

Overall, however, many people have found true love through online dating services. You shouldn't have to spend the rest of your life alone. You deserve to live your life! There are people out there waiting to meet you. It's time for you to get started!

Gail Anderson Metcalf is a single woman exploring relationships after 40. Learn more about senior relationships with self help http://www.findbooksinaudio.com audio books on relationships.

Dating Advice for Boomer Women - Don't Settle for Half a Relationship, Even If the Sex is Fun

By Ronnie Ann Ryan

Is there anything wrong with good sex? Of course not. But if you're looking for more than a roll in the hay, maybe even a loving partnership, you may need to raise your standards for what's acceptable in a relationship.

One of my clients asked about a dating situation she was in that was starting to make her wonder. It seems Marie had been seeing this very attractive younger guy for 3 months. The relationship was pretty steamy, meeting once a week for what she called "fantastic hotel sex."

The fellow, Tim was fairly direct and honest with her, letting her know he didn't want a relationship. And a mutual friend confided that Tim thought she was too old for him. Even though it was really fun, Marie was getting the feeling that the relationship was not going any where and she should end it. Tim was 32 and she was 45.

I asked Marie to take a step back and determine what her own dating agenda was. If she was OK with having fun weekend sex, then what the heck? But, if she wanted a long-term, loving relationship, Tim was obviously not the right man. He told her so AND a friend confirmed it. The best thing she could do was to trust her instincts, see the situation for what it was and move on.

Personally, I think this is one reason why there are so many 30 something men dating older women. Just an opinion I know and definitely not always true. But some younger guys may figure the baby bio-clock has stopped ticking (unlike potential 30 something girlfriends), so no pressure or commitment will be required from a 40 something woman.

Marie deserved more than sex in a relationship and I felt certain that with some effort she could find a better suited, more complete relationship. I suggested she walk away from Tim, make herself available again and raise her standards! There are plenty of good men out there who will light her fire AND love her too.

I asked Marie why she felt she should settle for only half of her romantic vision? She didn't even realize that this is what she had been doing. Then I encouraged her to get out there, go for what she really wanted and stop settling for hotel sex.

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Finding the Right Man - How To Connect With A Man If You Want A Serious, Long-Lasting Relationship

By Connie Ragen Green

Relationships do not have to be so difficult. If you are a woman looking for the right man, you may find it easier than you think to find true love. Men today are serious about finding a woman they can fall completely in love with for a lifetime. They are tired of the dating scene and are just waiting for a woman to come along that they can commit to for a life of bliss. Women need to keep some things in mind when trying to land that special guy.

• Be completely honest with a man when you first meet them. Any deception at all will be seen by the man as a red flag, and will kill any chance of romance in the future. If you have been in a troubled relationship in the past, have financial problems, or have anything else that you know will be important later on, just be honest and discuss it early on.
• Be open to his lifestyle, family and job. Even though you may be dreaming of meeting a doctor or a lawyer, realize that engineers, contractors and retail managers may be perfect for you. If you are hoping to meet someone with no family or friends, book a trip to another planet where you are more likely to find someone like that. Everyone has people in their life that they are used to spending time with. Give the new man in your life a chance to introduce you to his friends and family. You just may be pleasantly surprised.
• Make a list of what is most important to you and share it with your man as soon as is comfortable for both of you. You may be concerned with being with someone who has a high priority of staying healthy and fit or financial security may be higher on your list. Compare notes to see how compatible you really are.

There are enough available men for every woman who wants to be in a serious, committed relationship. Go to places where men are likely to be and soon you will find the man of your dreams. Writing about what you want in a man can be helpful in finding the right man.

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Should Seniors Consider Online Dating?

By Gail Anderson-Metcalf

Online dating isn't just for young people. Today there are many, many places online for vibrant, enthusiastic seniors to meet people. They all offer different services and provide features that you may or may not like. But in general, online dating can be a very positive experience for the single senior.

With an online dating service, there are lots of choices and dating opportunities. Not since high school or college will you find such a large number of potential dates and mates in one place. It can be heartening just to know that there are many single seniors out there who would love to find a loving partner.

Since there are so many people on the Internet dating scene, it should be enough proof that it does work, right? Some people are a little iffy about putting themselves out to strangers, but with the advancing technology making the world smaller and smaller everyday, the word "stranger" sometimes means nothing anymore.

Online dating sites give you a wide list of people to choose from. You can choose them because you have shared interests, belong to the same city, or whatever. And because dating sites have this vast list, you have the liberty to skip and choose. This actually erases having to care for a few caterpillars before you reach butterflies, if you know what I mean.

Dating sites cater to different needs. There are some that focus on letting single women meet single men. Some filter according to sexuality, religion, sex, or race -- the possibilities are endless. You name it; you bet there is something or someone out there who will fit just perfectly with what you're looking for.

The key to getting the most of your online dating site membership is to know what you want and what you're looking for, so you won't waste time trying to get to know people who turn out to be at the polar end of your character spectrum. Don't join a matchmaking site if you're just after the date's "fun" side. Don't join a Catholic site if you're Jewish. Things like that.

It's relatively inexpensive. While there are many free chat rooms and online personal sites, you may want to invest in paying a small fee to meet people who are more serious about meeting a quality partner. Even if you pay $25 to $50 to join, it's still cheaper than a senior cruise, and you don't have to leave home.

Profiles are a fun way to learn about people. Sites that offer space to write personal profiles that include hobbies, special interests, political beliefs, dreams, goals and favorite activities will give you the most accurate idea of what a person is like, and will help you decide if you have enough in common to make a connection.

It's easy to connect. By exchanging email you get to know each other slowly, without the awkwardness that comes with first dates. If you choose to meet, you'll already know a lot about each other, and that could help you both feel more comfortable.

There are, however, downfalls to dating online. Some sites allow people to post their profiles and respond to others for free, but unfortunately these free sites often attract weirdos or perverts. It's important to check out the site carefully before you join.

Plus, it can be risky when it comes to the people you will meet. After all, there are people out there who lie. You need to be cautious. In an effort to get more responses, or in some cases to deliberately mislead, some people lie in their profiles. Don't believe everything you read-if he or she sounds too good to be true, he or she probably is.

Overall, however, many people have found true love through online dating services. You shouldn't have to spend the rest of your life alone. You deserve to live your life! There are people out there waiting to meet you. It's time for you to get started!

Gail Anderson Metcalf is a single woman exploring relationships after 40. Learn more about senior relationships with self help http://www.findbooksinaudio.com audio books on relationships.

How To Find Your Online Soul Mate?

By Amatista Luna

Internet has meant the beginning of a new way of life for many people. A few years ago nobody would have thought that would be one of the most popular ways to meet people. After all, you need to leave the house to meet people, so how could online dating really work?

The reason is people have increasingly busy lives, making it hard to meet people, though the rage can also be blamed on the integration of technology into our daily lives. Whatever the reasons, online dating is a great way to meet people, you can meet the real love match if you follow a few online dating tips that are so easy and straightforward and anyone can follow them.

The main thing to keep in mind is that online dating is just like dating in the real world. Itดs a numbers game, and the more people you contact, the better your chances of meeting that special someone.

� Having a good online dating profile.

Think of your online dating profile as a snapshot of your life. You may find it useful to grab a pen and paper and jot down some ideas on what to include before filling in the profile on screen Your online dating profile has to be appealing, but it also has to be accurate. Make sure you include some of your likes and dislikes, but keep it positive throughout. No one likes anyone who constantly complains! Itดs worth remembering that a vital aspect of who you are is your outlook on life, try to provide a taste of who you are and what you stand for as a person. Remember to keep your profile short, and make sure you show some wit!

� Subscribe to a dating site

To increase your chances of meeting someone is to pay the subscription price, at least for a few months or look for a free site. When you subscribe, you are free to contact other members so that a dialogue can get started. Itดs ok if you donดt pay at first, just to feel the site out, but if you donดt pay, it may lower your chances of a love match.

� Contact as many people as you can

Be realistic! not everyone is going to look like a supermodel or fit into a cookie cutter description. Give all people a chance and you will increase your chances at love. You donดt have to lower your standards and go meeting anyone who is in the site, just make sure youดre not discarding people who might actually be a good match.

� Never talk bad about yourself

Never! Never put yourself down and tell the person they probably wonดt like you because.... This is very unattractive to a potential mate. People are going to be interested in you if they feel youดre happy, confident and secure with who you are. After a time you can say what you donดt like about yourself, if you get into a relationship. Until then, be mysterious and you will find many potential mates who want to know more about you, plant curiosity and collect.

� Make time for your online dating relationship.

Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? And do you do the same? Do you take online dating for granted? Neglecting (or not prioritizing) virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each other's time with respect. If you are trying to find love online the least you can do is being serious about it.

Online dating is a great way to meet people; you have a tank full of profiles from which to choose. You get to know people on the inside before you get to know them physical and this way you will go to the certain. Just make sure you keep it realistic, be yourself and remember to have confidence in everything you do. So there you go this tips will take you close to meet your online soul mate.

Writed by Amatista Luna

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The Pitfalls Of Online Senior Dating

By Pauline Go

Dating can be as much fun-filled experience for seniors just as it is for people of any other age groups. Senior dating involves partners with a certain degree of maturity, which makes the dating experience more pleasurable. Senior singles, who are actively looking for a date, are usually on a lookout for like-minded and compatible partners.

The Internet is perhaps the easiest source for such information and the best place for the senior singles to look for like-minded partners. However, there are many pitfalls associated with senior dating that one needs to look out for.

The issue of top most concern is that of safety. Just as there are many senior singles dating online sites, similarly there are many con artists, both foreign and local, who are on a prowl to target and prey on vulnerable senior singles who are desperately on a lookout for suitable singles. Con artists and predators are glib talkers who are very skilled at molding a conversation in such a manner that they can get all the information that they need.

Therefore, when dating online, it is very essential to get a criminal check conducted on a potential partner to learn if the person is divorced or has any charges of domestic violence or other criminal charges levied against him in the court of law. Verify whether your possible date is a married person, or whether he is not a senior but simply posing as one and has gained entry into the online dating service forums with an evil intention.

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Dating Advice for Boomer Women - Can You Help Me Get a Date with George Clooney?

By Ronnie Ann Ryan

One of my dearest clients has sent me numerous emails with this request - Can you get me a date with George Clooney? I hate to say no, but what's my choice really? I don't know the guy. I know WHO HE IS, but I don't KNOW him.

But what about that six degrees of separation thing that came up with that movie featuring many fine actors and Kevin Bacon in particular. In fact - didn't a game come out with that name - Six Degrees to Kevin Bacon? The idea is that you are just six people away from anyone you want to meet, if you utilize your network well. We all know approximately 250 people, so if you do the math, you can get connected to Kevin, or George in this case, with just six connections.

So where am I going with this? Well, this past weekend, a very wealthy woman took my class. In her 60's and still stunning, she wore a St. John's suit, her hair was perfectly coiffed, and she was decked out with great accent jewelry. (I always notice the jewels) Totally put together. Very Jackie O.

After class she approached me, waiting until everyone else had left to ask me how she could meet eligible men her age with "means" who were healthy, active and not looking for a "nurse and a purse." That gave me quite a laugh because I had never heard that expression - obviously I don't travel in the "right circles." Not that age bracket, not that bank account either - Boca Raton and the Hamptons.

Now let's think about that - she's asking me where the men of means are -but she's the one traveling in "those" circles. Or maybe not. What's amiss here is that she's not out there any more. As we get older, sometimes our circles get smaller. She admitted this was sadly true.

To combat the natural social attrition, you have to reach out and meet new people. I suggested that she play bridge, volunteer where other wealthy women do (museums, art galleries, politics?) and meet new girlfriends if nothing else. Go to polo matches, boat shows, or golf tournaments. Online, you might meet a wealthy man just as easy as a poor one on Match, SilverSingles or SeniorFriendfinder.

Rich or poor, the process is pretty much the same. As I wrote in a recent blog posting, a friend of mine went to a very upper crust socialite wedding of two wealthy people who met on - you got it - Match.com. Yes, it really happened!

So if you are looking for a person of means, you'll have to start traveling in those circles. Go to expensive restaurants and sit alone at the bar. Volunteer for socialite causes. Participate in political fund raisers. Go where they go and hang out. Meet their friends. Expand your world. That's true for whatever type of person you may want in any income bracket. The socializing price tag and addresses may be different, but the process is always the same.

Good luck out there!

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Senior Dating Doesn't Have to Be the Search for "Mr Right"

By Gail Anderson-Metcalf

So many women - especially senior women - are in search of Mr. Right. Women tend to live longer than men, so some women think that the pickings might be slim when you reach a certain age. This is far from the truth. There are ways to find and attract that special guy. But there are also obstacles that stand in your way of senior dating.

First and foremost, you need to get rid of that extra baggage you're carrying around with you. Past relationships can affect future relationships, but don't let them. What happened in the past is the past. You don't have to dwell on it and let it be part of your present or your future.

Many women have low self-esteem that can influence their attractive qualities that are naturally inside them. You need to change your way of thinking here and convince yourself that you're worthy of a good relationship to complement everything that you are. This will allow you to attract those dating opportunities worth your time.

Low self-esteem is an aspect of your personality that has been cultivated over years and years. Let go and let yourself be that wonderful person that lives inside of you. Tell yourself positive things including that you deserve to be loved and you deserve to continue living a healthy and full life. Confidence is the ultimate sexy trait in women, but avoid being too confident. A little humility is sexy as well.

If you think there just aren't any good men out there, you're wrong. This is a belief that has been bantered around for years. Some of this is rooted in past experiences. Still more is because you've set your expectations too high. No one is perfect and if you expect to find someone who is perfect, you'll be disappointed.

As a mature woman, you have many great qualities that you should embrace and use to your advantage in senior dating. Remember when you were in the first throes of a new romance, all of a sudden you got hit on a lot? That's because you radiated self-confidence; you were loved. Now, in your mature adult years, you should have plenty of self-confidence in your ability to balance a job, the ex, the kids, the bank account, the aging parents, friends, etc. Self-confidence is the biggest turn-on and once you've reached 50, you've got plenty of it.

You've been there and done that too! Now you know what you like. You are a better lover than you were at 20 because you know what turns you on, and you should be comfortable telling your partner exactly what you need. Indulge yourself. And if you feel like you have to be demure and shy, get ride of that! You have the right to be a strong, sensual woman - even as a senior citizen. You don't have to be that coy little chanteuse anymore. Assert yourself and enjoy the results!

Older women tend to be more daring as well. They're the ones signing up for all that adventure travel. Odds are you'll find more older women than men on cruises to the Antarctic, treks through Nepal and gorilla-watching expeditions in Africa. Women are more liberated when the kids move out and allow them to reclaim the lives they put on hold decades ago with their first delivery. This liberation is empowering and can be very alluring.

If you're interested in a man, look him in the eye, touch him lightly on the hand, twirl your hair (if possible) and make him know that you want to know more about him!

Above all, exude comfort with yourself. Know that you deserve to find love and companionship and let him know that. When you are confident, you will be stronger and that's what surviving in the senior dating world is really all about.

Gail Anderson-Metcalf is a single woman exploring relationships after 40. Learn more about senior relationships with our self help audio books on relationships.