The Phenomenon Of Online Dating - The Whole Truth!

As CEO of a company which operates some of the most popular dating sites on the net, I'm uniquely positioned to provide some clear and concise facts about the global phenomenon of online dating. In six bite-sized chunks I'm going to give you the whole truth about a past-time that has become part of the fabric of the lives of single people everywhere where a computer screen is affordable by or accessible to the masses.

1. Two out of every five single people aged 24 - 50 currently use, or have used an online dating service. Yes, you read that correctly - it's 40%! Now think of all the single friends you have; how many of them have actually told you that they've signed-up to a site in order to kick start their love lives? Not many I would wager. That's because in spite of the popularity of the medium, there is a still a social stigma attached to dating sites; when people meet a partner this way, they generally pretend to their friends that they've met in a bar or at some kind of party or work related function. One of the fastest growing activities in the world is still something most people wont admit to doing.

2. Only about 5% of people who join dating sites actually end up in a relationship with someone they first make contact with at their chosen site. Let's equate this to the 'real' world; you walk into a room full of one hundred strangers and how many of them would you be attracted to? Probably no more than ten. And that's if you're lucky. It's the same in cyberspace - how many total strangers will there be on any site that really press all the right buttons for you? So when you register with a site, don't expect miracles because your love life in cyberspace is no different to the reality of everyday life.

3. Only 10% of people who join dating sites get any messages at all from other members. There's a reason for this - the other 90% don't deserve any success. People who refuse to upload photos of themselves or post profiles which look like they can't really be bothered to say anything about themselves will just be ignored. The 10% who get noticed create upbeat, confident, humorous profiles, don't have any qualms about posting a picture of themselves and are proactive about contacting other members. If your site doesn't work you, you shouldn't blame the site just as a bad workman shouldn't blame his tools.

4. Popular dating sites are popular for one reason and one reason only. They work. In every territory, you'll find a handful of sites that outstrip all the others in terms of the volume of their registrations and their reputations in general. You'll also find that none of these sites are free. The sites which look the best, have the best features and offer good customer service are expensive to run and maintain. You get what you pay for on line as well as in all walks of life; if the owners of a dating site don't have the confidence in their product to actually charge for it, you have to ask yourself why that is. Relatively speaking, joining a dating site is very inexpensive compared to, say, going out for a nice meal or taking a trip to the theatre and the potential of finding a great new relationship makes the risk/reward ratio a no-brainer.

5. Global sites which can boast hundreds of thousands of members from all four corners of the globe are a waste of time unless you're looking for a pen-pal. These sites might sound rather impressive - "We have 5,000,000 members worldwide!!" - but so what? What you should be concerned with when you're choosing a site is how many members they have in your city, your town or your village. So if you're serious about find a partner, stick to city or country specific sites and take the 'global' hype with a pinch of salt.

6. The percentage of men on dating sites is disproportionate to that of women. Most services comprise about 60% men and 40% women so as far as the on line arena is concerned, it's the girls who are calling the shots. They have more choice and can therefore be more discerning about who they contact or write back to. So guys, if you want to stand out from the crowd, check out paragraph 3 above; write a great profile and post a flattering pic and you'll be just fine.

So there you have it; to make a success of online dating, all you have to do is pick the right site and post an eye-catching profile and photo and if it works for you...don't keep it a big secret - tell your single friends all about it so they can get a piece of the action too!

The 5 Secrets Of "keeping" Your Husband In Love With You

In medival times the 'keep' was the central tower that formed the heart of the castle. It was the most defended area of a castle. With that in mind, if we are to 'keep' our husband in love with us, we need to always 'keep' our husbands needs close to our heart and defend our relationship at all times.

We need to defend our marriage relationship by not allowing it to fall into a boring routine, defending against affairs, maintaining a healthy sex life, defending against being critical, and spending regular, quality time with our husband.

SECRET #1 - DO NOT FALL INTO A BORING ROUTINE
As we 'keep' our relationship from falling into a boring routine, we will look for opportunities to pamper and spoil our spouse. Simple acts of thoughtfulness breed reciprocal acts of kindness.

These efforts don't have to be expensive or elaborate, a tender note in a lunch box, a romantic note left on their wind shield, a short e-mail with a compliment, a unique dinner place setting, or a bedroom invitation written in soap on their mirror.

SECRET #2 - SHORE UP YOUR MARRIAGE AGAINST AN AFFAIR
The best offense in warding off the intrusion of an affair is to have a rewarding, satisfying marriage that meets the needs of both partners. Affairs aren't about sex, they're about someones needs going unmet.

These needs are usually emotional in nature, and ones that have been subtlely expressed to their wife, but the plea went unnoticed. Don't allow yourself to assume that your loving feelings alone will sustain your marriage. It requires daily acts of loving and listening to reinforce a marriage against the intrusion of an affair.

SECRET #3 - 'KEEP' YOUR SEX LIFE STRONG
Sex is a basic human need and should take priority over other things in your marriage. The sobering reality is that most spouses are more vulnerable to flirtations and sexual advances from others when their sex life is unhappy at home.

It's also critical to not only make time for sex but to have open communication with your spouse about both of your sexual needs. Ongoing intimacy keeps a relationships strong, thus, as you maintain a healthy sex life your relationship will remain strong.

SECRET #4 - REFRAIN FROM BEING CRITICAL
It's easy to criticize your husband for not being perfect while you ignore your own imperfections. It's important to focus on what you can do and give to your relationship rather than on whether or not your spouse is putting forth an equal effort or has some imperfections.

As you strive to improve who you are, you will become a more happy, peaceful person and this will reflect upon your husband. Not only will their imperfections appear to diminish, they will make improvements as well.

SECRET #5 - SPEND TIME WITH YOUR HUSBAND
It's difficult to have a successful marriage and experience true love without spending at least one night a week together that is free from distractions of family and work.

This doesn't have to be an expensive date each week, just time together enjoying each others company and 'keeping' your marriage strengthened.

As you put forth the effort to 'keep' your marriage strong, you will be amazed at the depth of joy and happiness in your marriage and how your relationship will flourish as it is nourished with these 5 secrets.

The Irresistible Power Of Dating Other Women – Variety Brings Spice To Life!

I have decided to bring upfront this important aspect of the dating scenario - multiple choices of women that lie ahead of all of us. This should be one of your primary priority area of consideration - because it is under your control if you so decide.

There happens to be existing a bit of dichotomy in this dating game - mostly created by women themselves. For your understanding, I want to break the existing myth - women do not like men dating more than one man. Did I hear someone say - Monogamous?

So many times I have heard some one say something on similar lines:
-This one's made just for me.
-I knew she should be just right for me
-I know my soul mate, when I see one
-God, help me, I don't want to lose her

The lists of such exclamations are endless. A man meets a woman, finds her extremely beautiful and desirable, and then goes and spoils it all by idolizing her. He instantly puts her on a pedestal and from then on his entire world revolves around her.

What a waste, what a mistake!

This kind of infatuation and fixation is a sure no-no for women. It kills any sense of excitement and thrill expected to exist in a budding relationship. Let me take you through a discussion, where I analyze WHY you should keep on seeing other women, even if you have your eyes fixed on one.

1.Attitude and confidence - Open other windows

When you are "fixed" or "stuck" with only one woman, you immediately shut out any buffer zone - or the comfort zone, which all of us need, in case something goes seriously wrong. In case she gets you out of her life - you spend the next few miserable months, or even years, thinking what is it that you said wrong, did wrong or hurt her unintentionally. Remember that song of the Beatles - Yesterday? You keep on longing for that single Yesterday.

Since you have pinned all your hopes, aspirations and dreams on one solitary woman, you have lost all your sense of balance and proportion. Our inherent "fear of loss" arises out of the belief that there are "no options" anymore. This is it. The moment you realize - O my God, so many women, so little time, your spirit automatically lifts up sky high. As a natural consequence, you will relax, learn to be calm and collected in your deportment. You no longer fear any one, now, isn't that a wonderful feeling?

2.Perspective and comparison - Compare, Contrast, Consider

If you start believing that the single woman who you have selected is the end all and be all of life, how are you going to assess her unless you know some other women too? You need to draw some kind of standard parameter guidelines, by which you can weigh the attraction level and find rationality for your feelings. If you have nothing else to compare her with, how will you ever know the millions of alternative behavioral norms that even exist?

3.Perceived value - Women' envy, Owners' pride!

Women go for the Jones's. Whatever the neighbor (in this case read it as other women) has, I must have it too. Right from jewellery, clothes, perfume to men! A man who is popular, talked about, seen everywhere and goes around with another woman, well, what is he like, is there any chance for me? Make a beeline for him! Join the race. A man who is WANTED. Who you see at the pub is ordinary, within reach. The "unconquered" triggers the killer instinct.

4. The Obsessive Self-destruct - Killing You Softly

Any sort of compulsion results in hasty, unrealistic and destructive decisions. The moment the world of choices open up, you automatically cease to show any compulsive behavior. The essence of this message is that you see and date as many women as there are available, till you meet the most promising one and it should be YOU who take the final call and NOT the woman!

5.Don't let her feel "tied" down too early

Women hate to be treated exclusively right from the word go. Even if your intention is a temporary liaison, she gets a wrong signal. She immediately concludes that you are intent on a serious monogamous relationship. Now her pace and sense of rhythm does not allow this. The whole episode then becomes full of disharmony.

So the take home is message is this: Keep your options open. Keep all windows open. Date as many women as you like, more so, if you have located the woman of your dreams. Do not over-indulge or spoil everything by idolizing her. To keep her interests alive, see other women. It pays, both in the short and long run.

Not In The Mood For Love?

Nothing can bring two people who truly care about one another mentally and physically together more than lovemaking. Passion can grow in your marriage; all it takes is a little planning and imagination. Avoid the dwindling love lives of other married couples. Take action now.

Honesty is the foundation to great sex. Both partners must be true to themselves and honest to their partners to get the most out of sex. Despite the passing of time and growth of culture, there is still an old adage that exists. It believes that women need love to get in the mood for sex, while men need sex to be able to get in love. Parts of this adage go on and provide some truths. Because women need "love" before sex - their needs are rooted in honesty a little more than that in men. Women need to know how they feel and be able to express when and how they want to make love by telling their husband.

When it comes to choosing the right time for lovemaking with your husband, here are four "don'ts":

1. If you aren't physically able to make love, don't. By creating a sense that you must have sex, you will gradually begin to lose the want to have sex. Further more, if sex becomes a "duty" this will do nothing more than distract the positive feelings you have for your husband. Instead of acting when your inner feelings are against it, simply and honestly explain to your husband that you cannot. Explain that you appreciate his urges and desires and pick a targeted time and place to make love in the future.

2. Avoid criticizing your husband if he decides to try something new that doesn't quite work so well for you. Variety is important to men, and it can be a very vulnerable thing for a man to even approach. So avoid slashing his confidence with criticism.

3. If your mind is somewhere else don't have sex with your husband. Choose a better place and time. Whether it was just a bad day at the office, problems with the kids, friends, or money - just give it time. Your honesty will be much appreciated and won't deter your will to make love when your mind is clear.

4. Never use resentment as a weapon to avoid having sex with your husband. Look back at number three. If you go too far and use your daily problems against your husband it will instantly put a hard lock to pick on your love life. Instead focus on communication and honesty. Find ways to talk about not having sex, and the times to have sex will begin to stack up.

What Makes An “alpha Male” Truly Alpha? – Essential Characteristics I – Dating Advice For Men

What makes an alpha male truly alpha. Here are some essential characteristics.

1. Brains and not brawns anymore
The Alpha Man is fully aware that in modern times, men do not have to demarcate his territory, do not have to fight enemies to protect his home and hearth. Our times have encouraged a new breed of intelligent men who use wit and brains to dominate over people. The Alpha Man diligently follows this belief.

2. Knows his mind
The Alpha Man is completely focused on his mission in life and actively pursues it with single-minded devotion. A quick decision taker, he works towards fulfilling his pre-determined goals.

3. Man in a perpetual hurry
The Alpha Man has not a moment to spare, lose or waste. He has places to go to, people to meet, appointments to keep. Sorry, can't wait more than 15 minutes for a date to arrive. And regret, not interested in phone calls if it is on call waiting or hold. Call me back if you need me, for I can't.

4. I come first, and then my life and interests.
Rest of the world can follow. Not to be mixed up with being selfish or self-centered. The Alpha Man just sees his own interest first and what satisfies him. He hates being a martyr for other peoples' interest.

5. Creator of his own world
The Alpha Man firmly believes that there is nobody dependable enough to bring fun, joy and merriment into his life. So he creates a wonderful world for himself, a kind of bubble. When a new person walks into his life, he is absolutely sure that the person is impressed by his charisma.

6. Can do without an OK from others
The Alpha Man is very conscious that the world built by him is created for him, of him and by him. In that, he rules, he operates with his self-defined code of conduct, his own set moral values and lives exactly the way he wants to. The opinion of others, good or bad, hardly matter to him and he needs nobody's approval for running his life.

7. A natural risk taker
The Alpha Man works to make all his dreams come true. Any life that ends in regret is something he wants to avoid at all costs. If you have dreamt it, reach it. That's his aim.

8. Can be a good listener too
Yes the Alpha Man is "clever" enough to know how to play his card, when and where. Can put his emotional side under harness when he wants to and can listen out a long story at times. For he knows the ones who shout and brag about themselves, are normally insecure, shallow people.

The Dating Pool – Are You Swimming Yet?

Dating…isn't that a scene right out of High School? We're haunted by memories of our first date and the nervous tension that resulted from the anticipation of it: "Did I pick the correct outfit?" "Will I smell good to them?" "What will I say during those awkward moments of silence?"

Things haven't changed that much since High School. Often we ask the same question and still get that same sense of nervous anticipation before we embark on a first date with someone.

Dating can be a very intimidating time to even the most experienced, savvy dater. Recently, I asked both men and women who dated frequently (3-4 times a week on average) if they still had first date jitters. The same answer echoed through 93% and that was a resounding, "Yes!"

Amazingly enough, even those people who seem so confident; those who have an endless amount of dating potential as well as a line of prospective suitors, still get those first date jitters. So for those singles that still have troubling memories of their past dating experiences, how do you jump into the dating pool and begin to swim again?

Unlike swimming in a pool filled with water, don't dive into the deep end of the dating pool first, even if you remember how to swim. There may be sharks lurking, waiting to attack. It's always best if you start in the shallow end of the pool.

Put one foot in by heading to a charity event in your area. If you are nervous, as most of us are, prepare for your first encounter, just as you would when you are vying for a promotion at your work.

Practice ahead of time! Make up a little 3x5 flash card set with subjects you can converse on or questions that are conversation initiators (forget about the weather, that's a dried up subject).

Here are a few that you can use that are sure to spark some interest:

Talk about your family (positively)
Liven up the conversation with topics of any recent travels
Ask about their career and how they happened upon
Ask about their family (if they shy away, you need to also)

These are just a few topics. If you can't think of any yourself, pour over the Internet for resources on topics of conversation.

Where can you find a dating pool in your area?

Sporting clubs (the kind that you actually participate in sports)
Specialty courses at a junior college or community center
Coffee Café's
Grocery Stores (I talk about that in my book)

Again, this is just a few ideas. The most important thing when you're swimming in the pool is to avoid offensive behavior. That's determined by the pool you are in. Good luck and remember, start at the shallow end before you dive into the deep waters, a life vest may not be available.

How To Attract Any Woman You Want

How do you attract a woman, no matter what you look like, how much money you have in your bank account, what social status you have? You too can attract a woman by knowing just the right things to do, say, and how to act. Knowing how to attract a woman is the first step in making your dating life that much more pleasurable and exciting, not to mention having dates in the first place.

Of course, we all know that there has to be some sort of physical attraction between a man and a woman for the relationship to work. This attraction does not necessarily mean you have to look like one of the Chippendale dancers. This attraction can be a number of things, your eyes, your smile, the way you carry yourself, your confidence, your sense of humor, or even your really great butt.

Women want a man who is attuned to how she feels, what she says, and what she needs. They do not want a man who is so full of themselves that all they do is talk about who they are and what they do, while at the same time looking around the room in search for another beautiful woman.

Knowing how to attract a woman includes paying complete and total attention to her and only her. A woman wants a man who is completely engrossed in the moment with her that you will not even notice the other gorgeous women that are in the same room. She wants to feel like you have eyes only for her, if you can accomplish this, you will definitely have hooked the woman and you will likely continue to date her.

Additionally, in knowing how to attract a woman, you will also need to know that many women want a real and solid relationship; they are not looking to just get laid to be blunt. Most all women believe that there needs to be affection, communication, and plenty of foreplay prior to any kind of sexual activity, studies show that these types of action is more important to any woman than the man's cute factor.

Being happy is the best way in learning how to attract a woman, a woman wants a man who is happy within this life. By being happy and having an enjoyable life a woman will be that much more attracted to you, this will cause her to believe her life will be that much more fun and interesting if you were in it. If you are unhappy with the life you are leading, you should work on it and keep it to yourself. A woman will not want to date a man who hates his life, job, parents, or himself.

In learning how to attract a woman, it is important you take to heart all of these key aspects. Doing so will help you lead a healthier and more active dating life, not to mention the sexual aspects as well.

New To Lesbian Sex Dating?

Then know the terminology ….

The world of lesbians is a woman to women love or sex. However, lesbians have varied physical attributes and sexual orientations that define their characteristics and predilections. This becomes apparent if see lesbian personals. Lesbian love and romance is as strong and possessive as that between straight singles or couples.

The following terminology or glossary of lesbian terms should make their lifestyle much clearer to people who know little about lesbian sex or Lesbian dating.

Amazon: is a name for a particularly strong lesbian woman.
Baby Dyke: A young lesbian or someone who is just coming out of the closet.
Lesbian Beard: A "beard" is a person of the opposite sex who marries or dates a closeted lesbian to cover up their homosexuality. In the past, often lesbians married gay men so that both could "pass" as straight, either for work or for their families.
Boi: is a woman who is biologically female, but has a boyish appearance or presentation. A boi may be lesbian identified or s/he may be trans identified.
Bulldyke: A very masculine lesbian.
Butch or Stone Butch: A woman who adopts what would be considered masculine characteristics.
Crone: In lesbian circles is a wise older woman whose life experience demands that she be treated with respect.
Diesel Dyke or Bulldaggers: is a very butch or manly lesbian and very aggressive.
Dyke: Another word for lesbian women. Usually is only used by people who are gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transsexual.
Femme Fatale: A gorgeous female who is sexually very attractive and has the killer looks.
Gold Star Lesbian: is a lesbian who has never slept with a man and, does not intend to sleep with a man ever.
Lipstick Lesbian: is a woman who loves other women, but also loves her clothes and makeup and shoes. She tends to dress on the femmy side.
Lone Star Lesbian: is someone who has only had sex with one person in their life.
Pansexual: is someone who is attracted people of many genders.
Pillow Queen: is someone who likes to be on the receiving end of sex. She likes to be pleasured and not reciprocate.
Power Dyke: is a lesbian who has gained a position of power within the LGBT community. She could be the head of a non-profit agency, a politician or successful in business.
Boston Marriages: Many women, particularly those who were college educated, lived in long-term unions with other women. These relationships became known as Boston Marriages.

The use of lesbian terminology is between lesbians themselves or bisexual women and men and gays who understand lesbians as sexual encounters between them often take place.

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Gay Dating And Lifestyle

The popularity of gay lifestyle is evident from the number of gay dating sites that has sprung up on Internet in recent times. It is a blessed platform for closeted gays to contact gay males for gay sex, romance and love relationship as anyone else would wish for.

Out Personals, Queer - these words characterize gay lifestyle, which till today is not an accepted mode of life to a large populace on this planet. Even in modern, fast-paced societies where liberal attitudes and sexual liberation are a norm, gay men are looked down upon.

Country politics and social caretakers indulge in raging debates on gay lifestyles and gay rights in discussion forums, parliament, and conventions. There is a marked hesitancy in accepting gays in government services and other public enterprises, though some nations have accorded acceptance but more has to be done.

The crux is that homosexuality is in practice since ages and it is still as popular, without any signs of receding or vanishing from the face of earth. Then why not accept it since it does not impinge on anyone’s privacy or way of life. Nor is it detrimental to the society since gay dating lifestyle is a much-closeted practice.

I am not advocating gay life as a gay-which I am not-but what I want to stress is that everyone has a right to express his or her sexuality and practice as long as it does not hurt others.

The reason behind ridicule or sneer of gay lifestyle is that it is a biological aberrance as sex is for procreation and a man-to-man sex does not give birth to new being. But then, anal sex practice is not limited to gay couples only, it is much practiced by straight couples too, so what is funny.

Sex is for procreation but it is for pleasure too, and any which way you can. Therefore, “Out” sex practice is not restricted to guys only but rather practiced by straight lifestyle followers in some way or the other. So live and let live.

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