8 Mega Warning Signs To Look Out For In Dating And Relationships

Men and women alike have a predisposition to overlook some key behavioral patterns of their new partner. When the relationship takes on a sour note comes the sad remark 'Had I only known…' but it's already too late, what should have been prevented happened already.

Psychotherapists reveal that in most of their counseling sessions with members of the same sex in the field of domestic violence there is a clear indication that victims of domestic violence can always trace back repulsive and sometimes dangerous character traits of their partners to the very beginning of the relationship.

Early Warning Signs to look out for and be wary of in a new partner.

1.Irritable over petty matters and very antagonistic when having arguments.
2.Subjecting you to humiliation and calling you names when the two of you are alone.
3.Makes insulting remarks about you in front of others in complete disregard of your feelings.
4.Sadistic lovemaking and making you perform sexual acts you do not like.
5.Deciding where and when to go without consulting you
6.Limits your time with your friends and family but forces you to socialize with his/her friends; belittles your accomplishments and does not recognize your areas of expertise.
7.Openly flirts with the opposite sex but accuses you jealousy when you object.
8.Prone to tantrums and destructive behavior.

A red flag warning should automatically be raised when your partner comes on zealously in the beginning of your new relationship, tries to sweep you off your feet, and wants an exclusive relationship too quickly.

A lot of women are thrilled at the intensity of a man's open display of an apparent need for an immediate connection and thus overlooking its inappropriateness. However, this should not be misconstrued as 'love at first sight' wherein one or both parties feel an instant and strong connection - without any of the aforementioned behaviors.

If the man in your life shows evidence of any of the above attitudes or behavior - be aware that the relationship will not get better, it might just get worse. Very likely, he will even be reluctant to discuss his emotions because he feels that women are inferior.

If this is the case, the best course of action is try to get out of it as soon as possible to prevent any unlikely event like physical abuse or emotion

The Irresistible Power Of Dating Other Women – Variety Brings Spice To Life!

I have decided to bring upfront this important aspect of the dating scenario - multiple choices of women that lie ahead of all of us. This should be one of your primary priority area of consideration - because it is under your control if you so decide.

There happens to be existing a bit of dichotomy in this dating game - mostly created by women themselves. For your understanding, I want to break the existing myth - women do not like men dating more than one man. Did I hear someone say - Monogamous?

So many times I have heard some one say something on similar lines:
-This one's made just for me.
-I knew she should be just right for me
-I know my soul mate, when I see one
-God, help me, I don't want to lose her

The lists of such exclamations are endless. A man meets a woman, finds her extremely beautiful and desirable, and then goes and spoils it all by idolizing her. He instantly puts her on a pedestal and from then on his entire world revolves around her.

What a waste, what a mistake!

This kind of infatuation and fixation is a sure no-no for women. It kills any sense of excitement and thrill expected to exist in a budding relationship. Let me take you through a discussion, where I analyze WHY you should keep on seeing other women, even if you have your eyes fixed on one.

1.Attitude and confidence - Open other windows

When you are "fixed" or "stuck" with only one woman, you immediately shut out any buffer zone - or the comfort zone, which all of us need, in case something goes seriously wrong. In case she gets you out of her life - you spend the next few miserable months, or even years, thinking what is it that you said wrong, did wrong or hurt her unintentionally. Remember that song of the Beatles - Yesterday? You keep on longing for that single Yesterday.

Since you have pinned all your hopes, aspirations and dreams on one solitary woman, you have lost all your sense of balance and proportion. Our inherent "fear of loss" arises out of the belief that there are "no options" anymore. This is it. The moment you realize - O my God, so many women, so little time, your spirit automatically lifts up sky high. As a natural consequence, you will relax, learn to be calm and collected in your deportment. You no longer fear any one, now, isn't that a wonderful feeling?

2.Perspective and comparison - Compare, Contrast, Consider

If you start believing that the single woman who you have selected is the end all and be all of life, how are you going to assess her unless you know some other women too? You need to draw some kind of standard parameter guidelines, by which you can weigh the attraction level and find rationality for your feelings. If you have nothing else to compare her with, how will you ever know the millions of alternative behavioral norms that even exist?

3.Perceived value - Women' envy, Owners' pride!

Women go for the Jones's. Whatever the neighbor (in this case read it as other women) has, I must have it too. Right from jewellery, clothes, perfume to men! A man who is popular, talked about, seen everywhere and goes around with another woman, well, what is he like, is there any chance for me? Make a beeline for him! Join the race. A man who is WANTED. Who you see at the pub is ordinary, within reach. The "unconquered" triggers the killer instinct.

4. The Obsessive Self-destruct - Killing You Softly

Any sort of compulsion results in hasty, unrealistic and destructive decisions. The moment the world of choices open up, you automatically cease to show any compulsive behavior. The essence of this message is that you see and date as many women as there are available, till you meet the most promising one and it should be YOU who take the final call and NOT the woman!

5.Don't let her feel "tied" down too early

Women hate to be treated exclusively right from the word go. Even if your intention is a temporary liaison, she gets a wrong signal. She immediately concludes that you are intent on a serious monogamous relationship. Now her pace and sense of rhythm does not allow this. The whole episode then becomes full of disharmony.

So the take home is message is this: Keep your options open. Keep all windows open. Date as many women as you like, more so, if you have located the woman of your dreams. Do not over-indulge or spoil everything by idolizing her. To keep her interests alive, see other women. It pays, both in the short and long run.

Not In The Mood For Love?

Nothing can bring two people who truly care about one another mentally and physically together more than lovemaking. Passion can grow in your marriage; all it takes is a little planning and imagination. Avoid the dwindling love lives of other married couples. Take action now.

Honesty is the foundation to great sex. Both partners must be true to themselves and honest to their partners to get the most out of sex. Despite the passing of time and growth of culture, there is still an old adage that exists. It believes that women need love to get in the mood for sex, while men need sex to be able to get in love. Parts of this adage go on and provide some truths. Because women need "love" before sex - their needs are rooted in honesty a little more than that in men. Women need to know how they feel and be able to express when and how they want to make love by telling their husband.

When it comes to choosing the right time for lovemaking with your husband, here are four "don'ts":

1. If you aren't physically able to make love, don't. By creating a sense that you must have sex, you will gradually begin to lose the want to have sex. Further more, if sex becomes a "duty" this will do nothing more than distract the positive feelings you have for your husband. Instead of acting when your inner feelings are against it, simply and honestly explain to your husband that you cannot. Explain that you appreciate his urges and desires and pick a targeted time and place to make love in the future.

2. Avoid criticizing your husband if he decides to try something new that doesn't quite work so well for you. Variety is important to men, and it can be a very vulnerable thing for a man to even approach. So avoid slashing his confidence with criticism.

3. If your mind is somewhere else don't have sex with your husband. Choose a better place and time. Whether it was just a bad day at the office, problems with the kids, friends, or money - just give it time. Your honesty will be much appreciated and won't deter your will to make love when your mind is clear.

4. Never use resentment as a weapon to avoid having sex with your husband. Look back at number three. If you go too far and use your daily problems against your husband it will instantly put a hard lock to pick on your love life. Instead focus on communication and honesty. Find ways to talk about not having sex, and the times to have sex will begin to stack up.

What Makes An “alpha Male” Truly Alpha? – Essential Characteristics I – Dating Advice For Men

What makes an alpha male truly alpha. Here are some essential characteristics.

1. Brains and not brawns anymore
The Alpha Man is fully aware that in modern times, men do not have to demarcate his territory, do not have to fight enemies to protect his home and hearth. Our times have encouraged a new breed of intelligent men who use wit and brains to dominate over people. The Alpha Man diligently follows this belief.

2. Knows his mind
The Alpha Man is completely focused on his mission in life and actively pursues it with single-minded devotion. A quick decision taker, he works towards fulfilling his pre-determined goals.

3. Man in a perpetual hurry
The Alpha Man has not a moment to spare, lose or waste. He has places to go to, people to meet, appointments to keep. Sorry, can't wait more than 15 minutes for a date to arrive. And regret, not interested in phone calls if it is on call waiting or hold. Call me back if you need me, for I can't.

4. I come first, and then my life and interests.
Rest of the world can follow. Not to be mixed up with being selfish or self-centered. The Alpha Man just sees his own interest first and what satisfies him. He hates being a martyr for other peoples' interest.

5. Creator of his own world
The Alpha Man firmly believes that there is nobody dependable enough to bring fun, joy and merriment into his life. So he creates a wonderful world for himself, a kind of bubble. When a new person walks into his life, he is absolutely sure that the person is impressed by his charisma.

6. Can do without an OK from others
The Alpha Man is very conscious that the world built by him is created for him, of him and by him. In that, he rules, he operates with his self-defined code of conduct, his own set moral values and lives exactly the way he wants to. The opinion of others, good or bad, hardly matter to him and he needs nobody's approval for running his life.

7. A natural risk taker
The Alpha Man works to make all his dreams come true. Any life that ends in regret is something he wants to avoid at all costs. If you have dreamt it, reach it. That's his aim.

8. Can be a good listener too
Yes the Alpha Man is "clever" enough to know how to play his card, when and where. Can put his emotional side under harness when he wants to and can listen out a long story at times. For he knows the ones who shout and brag about themselves, are normally insecure, shallow people.

Atlanta Singles Dating Trap #2 - The Marketing Trap

Do you know how sometimes you can feel like you have to market yourself to get a date and then keep a relationship? Gets tiring doesn't it? It's called the marketing trap and here are some tips and tools for what to do instead.

Signs of the Marketing Trap

Where in the world did we get the notion that we have to sell ourselves or be someone we are not in order to attract someone? It's called the marketing trap and here are some of the signs and symptoms:

1. Believing you need to make yourself more appealing to attract a partner.

2. "Selling" yourself with attractive packaging and presentation.

3. Acting like some you are not and/or someone you think the other person would want.

4. Saying you like something the other person likes when you really don't. I friend of mine is a huge fan of the Rocky movies. A woman he was dating said she was too. It was not until after they were married that my friend discovered she could not stand the movies and thought they were stupid.

The biggest problem with this approach is the high risk of disappointment and relationship failure as you discover that the excitement and promise of the "sizzle" conflicts with the reality of the "steak".

Solution:Get real, be real, stay real. Some people call this authenticity. You will attract compatible people when you show them who you really are. Better to connect with the real person than to find out something different later.

Visit http://www.ConsciousDatingAtlanta.com for tips and strategies for finding the love of your life and the live you love. Subscribe to our f-ree 5 Day E-Course "Find the Love of Your Life". Jeff Herring is the founder and CEO of ConsciousdatingAtlanta.com and a singles and couples relationship coach, and can be reached at http://www.ConsciousDatingAtlanta.com